I need some advice with a 14yr old and drugs

[posymouse]

I'm worried out of my mind about my 14 year old. I've just read her fb and found out she didn't stay at a friend's on Sat night but at a boy who left yr11 last year (with no gcses) and was getting stoned. We suspected that she has been doing this for a while.
She won't talk to us and hasn't even come home from School yet. She hangs around the park and shopping centre most of the time.
I called Frank for advice and the woman said:
"What 14 year old isn't doing cannabis nowadays"
I really need some advice. We're worried confronting her will send her further into this world. I was hoping Frank would give us some advice having summoned up the courage to call them.
Thank you- any advice appreciated

First things first.You don t want to fall out with her if you can help it.Most teens do experiment. however,I am concerned for your daughter.
Whats your schools pastoral support like? Usually they ve got a safeguarding lead who can help in this sort of situation.School should offer a councilling service of some kind,Do you have checkpoint locally they have dedicated drugs and alcohol workers as well as people who can help identify and work with young people who are vulnerable.You may not want to hear this but, you may need to discuss contraception with her as well.Your local sexual health clinic will be able to help you with this. Long acting removable contraception in this situation are helpful.She may well not be having sex but this is belt and braces.
Is there anything going on at home? It's worth asking her of anything is bothering her and reassuring her that your love is unconditional.Discuss boundaries with her in a mature and calm way.please don t give her something to push against.Support and understanding rather than shouting and what she considers unfair boundrys will cause more trouble.Im not in anyway saying that cannabis is not harmful but where I work legal highs are damaging young people far more significantly.
are you sure who she's hanging out with?Where is she getting the money to buy cannabis and tobacco etc?
Finally can you access her phone and sneak a look at her contacts,messages,photos etc.This will shed some light about what's really going on.Young minds (google it) is a helpful website to have a look at.
I'm sorry I'm Probobly being ott I work with vulnerable young people and see worse case scenario and I don t know you or your family I hope this helps good luck.x

Thank you for taking the time to reply. That really helps- we were talking about contraception earlier, I need to take her to get an implant then... She has been aggressive and pretty foul since puberty hit. She "lost" her phone- I think she did this on purpose as now she has masses more freedom and we can't contact her. I'm waiting for a new sim and will sort that. We looked at facebook which is how we know about the boy and the weed. She is on the school pastoral radar but not as far as drugs are concerned. They're sending their outreach person out tomorrow just about how to deal with her behaviour so we can ask about this too. Thank you, I really appreciate it.