my just turned 15 year old son

[angieneal58]

left a letter from a new "girlfriend" (who is 16) saying how much she enjoyed cuddling in bed all day" last Sat. He was round at her (separated Father's house) The father picked him up and took him there. Should I or his dad confront this as if they are doing more than cuddling the father needs to know and the son needs "that talk" as not been discussed. This means I will have to admit I was in his bedroom and read his stuff! Help.

As he has a new girlfriend I would use that as an excuse to have 'that talk' in general terms rather than making reference to reading his letters.

I don't think it's your place to talk to the girl's father, who must be aware of what might happen when he leaves his DD and her boyfriend home alone all day. One would hope he has had a similar talk with her.

I agree it would not be wise to let him know you read his letter.

You've every right to talk to his GF's father but it sounds like he might not mind if they're doing more than cuddling - if he lets them spend hours and hours alone in her bedroom.

I'd have a talk with him and encourage him to bring his GF to your home so you can keep a closer eye on them if that's what you feel is best.

Thought for a moment I had actually written this post myself!?!
Talk about déjà vu...
Have asked ds to bring gf around for months now, but no luck so far. Will keep lurking hoping for advice

Just a side note here. Please don't belittle their relationship because they are 16. 'Girlfriend' suggests that you are doing.

It might seem childlike to you, with your relationship experience now (and comparative lack of then), but honestly relationships at that age can be some of the most important and meaningful you ever experience.

My relationship from 15-18 was incredibly important, passionate, serious, legitimate and formative for me as a person. If anyone dared treat it like puppy love, even now, they're just showing how clueless and out of touch with teenagers that they really are.