I can't cope with having my 35 year old son living in my house anymore. He hasn't got a job, he drinks way too much, I have to fund his car, mobile, drink and cigarettes, he hides up in his room when I'm at home and when I broach the subject of him moving out he explodes at me. I think he may have bipolar disorder and I also think he needs medical help such an anti-depressants but he refuses to go to the doctor's. I understand it is not easy living at home as an adult but I feel so anxious in my own home. Recently I got so upset at how aggressive he was being towards me, I asked my daughter to come over and ask him to please move out for a few days so I can recover my equilibrium. he refused and was very defensive and defiant. However, the shock treatment worked in that he has an interview for a possible job as a hospital porter and addresses me politely. But I still need him to move out. I don't want him to move to a foyer though where he will mix with petty thieves and drug users - at least he is not taking drugs or doing anything illegal. What can I do?