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Help with Teen Daughter

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Prjcaden · 28/09/2013 22:32

Hi All,

My partner and I are really struggling with our daughter. She is 12 with all the teenager issues.

Last week we found she had sent a video of her privates to two boys at school. We have involved the school and spoken to her about her responsibilities, the consequences of her actions and how disappointed we are. She spoke to the misses and said a photo of her had been stolen from her phone which shocking as it is was a lie.

About a month before a note was found at home saying she had had enough of me and she loved her mum but needed a break and would be back in 3 days, and if we hadn't noticed she looked older than her age so Social services would not get involved. There was a call from school with two of her friends were worried she would run away. About 18:30 she turned up at her aunts. Phone was confiscated because of below.

About a month before we found porn on her phone and that she was contacting random boys across the world.

We have all the "normal" teen stuff too lying all the time, foul moods, she knows everything, terrible attitude, not thinking about anyone else and generally not caring. She has really changed over the last year.

We both feel sick and have not been eating. Nothing we say or do seams to have any impact on her and we are scared of the next issue. We love her to pieces, we have tried understanding her, being strict with her, speaking to her we have tries good cop bad cop, individual conversations. It's hard to put all the details and feelings,

I would appreciate any input you may have.

Thanks.

OP posts:
Custardo · 28/09/2013 22:37

you can put parental controls on phones and computers. you should do so.

in your shoes the I would take the phone off her for it never to be returned - if she wants one, she will have to wait until she can get a paper round or something.

communal computer, she can use it - but you have her passwords and only in your presence. password protect it - and parental control it.

FuckyNell · 28/09/2013 22:41

Agree with above. Good luck

PRJC79 · 28/09/2013 22:44

Hi Custardo all of these have been done. And have been done in the past. Running away we thought it's better we can contact her, so gave her it back. It feels everything we do is wrong.

Tabby1963 · 28/09/2013 22:51

Prjcaden, just wanted to post how sorry I am to hear of your trouble. I can't offer any advice than has been given but hope that you soon come out of this awful nightmare./emo/te/3.gif

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