My DD is not really a teen she's just approaching 21 but emotionally still at about 17-18. She struggled with anxiety and depression for about 5 years on and off and now her dad and I have split up which probably has not helped. She is extremely jealous of her younger sister who is 9 and feels that the world owes her everything. She lacks confidence but is very intelligent, beautiful and actually has the world at her feet. Even though I am going through a messy divorce, my girls are my life and I do anything and everything I can for them. i do however, encourage their independence and try constantly to seek ways that my eldest DD can contribute to her family life. But sadly I find her becoming more and more self centred. Myself and my mother-in-law have waited year on year to see if this is "just a phase', but it seems not. She only ever thinks of herself. She never considers to make me or her sister a drink, food or offer to get us stuff at the shop. She keeps herself to herself, living in her own world and not wanting to be part of mine unless it suits her. If she needs a lift then she asks but does not bother with a thank you as she gets out of the car. She rarely bothers to speak to her little sister who has started to regard her in the same way. I have housed her best friend for the past 6 months as she was homeless and she is eager to engage with her when she gets in and will often buy food to cook for her or clean her room for her. I cannot remember the last time she did something kind for me or her sister. Has anyone else had a similar experience? I am soon going to have to sell the family home in the divorce and am seriously considering asking her to get her own place and move on, would this be fair? She pays £20 a week (begrudgingly ) at the moment, but has no respect for anything ( I have just had to go turn the hot water off and 11.40 as she left it on!). Any tips would be appreciated Im on my own here??