Does anyone have experience of someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

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My DD16 has been 'friends' with a girl since year 3 of junior school. She has always been possessive, jealous, controlling and often down right nasty to DD. I have now been told by one of this girls family members that she has been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This makes perfect sense as reading up on it she is displaying all of the charactistics of this condition ie lack of empathy for others, feeling of superiority, expectations of special treatment from others, unrealistic self opinion of her own looks and abilities. I just wish DD had the courage to withdraw from her, which she does periodically but always ends up being drawn back in as it's easier to be so called friends with her than enemies. She is very manipulative and will make up rumours and lies about those who won't do what she wants. Any tips on the best way to deal with her as it looks like she's going to still be in our lives for a good couple of years yet!

Oh dear, how difficult! My sister had a very long standing 'friend' with this condition and there really is no answer other than your DD trying to remove herself from the friendship which is nothing but destructive. My sisters friend truly has made her life hell between the ages of 13 and 27 by doing everything she could to make her feel bad about herself. This included starting relationships with two of my sisters boyfriends! She was a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding and told her on the wedding morning that she looked awful in her dress (she didn't!) and that she, the bridesmaid, looked a lot better (she really didn't!). She thinks herself amazingly beautiful and attractive to men but really isn't all all - I'm sorry to say that men get with her because she is such a slut. On a night out when we were younger she would wait for someone to say they fancied a boy and then would make a bee-line for that boy and get off with him. I could go on but basically tell your DD that it's the other girls problem, not hers and to be strong and steer well clear if she possibly can! Good Luck!

Oh God thank you so much for your reply! Your poor sister, this girl sounds even more difficult than DD's 'friend'. Reading through these posts it would seem that anyones common sense would tell them to have nothing to do with a person like this but the girl can be charming and lovely - only when she is totally in control of everything and everyone. Oh and she does the thing with the boys too, she has absolutely no thought for anyone elses feelings and will step on anyone to get exactly what she wants. Boys seem to go off her very quickly though.........