DS almost 20 knows everything

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New to the site will be brief. Example last night said he doesn't need to floss his teeth, brushing is enough. Today washed bedding but put back on bed before dry. Bedding also worn, stained and old. Has new set but won't use them. Tried to explain both things not healthy but he does not listen. I know there are worse things to worry about. He is a good lad looking for a job at the moment but I do not handle these confrontations very well. There is no shouting on either side but he always has the last word. Have had problems (not issues) with some lying this year but that has passed. Husband says not to worry. . TIA

Really, you have nothing to worry about..

Let him work it out himself - not flossing might end with toothache
damp bed clothes may end up with back ache and a chill, my son says old bedding is more 'comfy' and 'softer'

he is fine-let him run. they ALL know everything at 20!! they will learn

I knew everything at 20. Just wish I could remember it now!

Think it's in response to first taste of freedom and showing you can do it better than parents! Now Im in 30s with first child I ask their advice again!

This is why kids should be on their merry way at 18....

Agree, don't worry - surprised you got to him being 19 before realising that he knows everything and you know nothing

My DS is 20. Just what is it with their bedding?

He's a good lad too, at Uni (lives at home), got a PT job, doesn't drink or smoke, for all this I am grateful. So try not to sweat the small stuff, but it is hard to try and mind my own business. If he chooses not to clean his teeth or change his bedding, then so be it. He gets round to it in the end. He tidies his room when it suits him not me. It might not be done to my standard but does it really matter?

Try not to bite OP

Agree with rootypig.

My boys have both known everything since they turned 13. Sadly knowing everything doesn't equate to doing everything - or indeed anything much! - and they have both turned down the opportunity of using their infinite wisdom to cook, clean, and otherwise run the house!

I'd really like to hire every 18 to 20 year old for my business - they know so much more than the rest of us!

I too can't believe they can do a whole term at uni without once changing their bedding. Ugh. I always feel like saying very loudly to housemates and other collecting parents ' well at home we wash bedding every week!' In case they think they got their habits from me!