Yes, I snooped, don't know whether I am glad I did or wish I hadn't, came across DS1's iPod where he had dropped it on the bathroom floor after exiting hurriedly from the shower when some family visitors arrived. It was playing an " interesting" video clip. I switched it off and handed it to him nonchalantly, I don't think he knows I saw the clip, I kept a very straight face. It niggled me though and when I next found his iPod, in his bed when I was changing the sheets, I looked at what was on the screen ( he had left to on again, par for the course ). It was one of those chat sites where teens show naked pictures of themselves, I saw his user name and later, after tussling with my conscience, I googled his user name to discover a couple of post where he had asked for a gay man to use him as a sex slave, thankfully unanswered.
I do not have a problem with him being gay, if he is, but have a major problem with risky behaviour.
I also feel bad for being a bit naive about blocking access.
I am not going to confront him directly, a teen jumped off a bridge here recently when some online sexual activity threatened to come out.
I need to find a way to nip this activity in the bud and support him in dealing with emerging sexuality.
He is only just 15, I hate the sleaziness of the whole thing, feeling very sad but have to put a cheerful face on.