do you still view 17 year olds as children or adult

[sophie96]

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I have a 17 yr old. She is a child.

A mature 17 yr old is an adult.
An immature 17 yr old is a child.

this sounds familliar....

Work in progress, it depends on the individual, aptitude, strengths and weaknesses and the circumstances and the challenges.
Always my children, but they are both over 18 now.

Children.

Do you plan to stay and chat this time, or just start loads of threads? Three in a row is not actually helping yourself or anyone else.

A child. You might think you're an adult at 17, but hit your 20s and you'll realise how little you knew at 17.

It's a tricky one really.
I would imagine parents, other family and school adults would say child and outside adults not linked more likely to consider them as adults, albeit young ones.

Much older people would still consider them mere child due to age gap. Some older people consider adults in their 20/30s as child.

Sounds familiar?
Oh no, not that girl again with a dozen different threads on the problems of being 17? Isn't there a teen angst website where those sort of questions have respondents who understand the trauma of being 17?

I'm guessing from your username that you are the 17-year-old in question. Really it depends entirely on the individual 17-year-old - how mature and responsible they are, whether they still live at home, are financially dependent, can look after themselves etc.

I left home at 17 to live in another country by myself for six months (I turned 18 when I was there), so I think I was pretty much behaving as an adult. But I know plenty of 17 year-olds who are still at school, don't help out at home, aren't capable of living by themselves, and need nagging to do anything other than slob around.

Which description fits you better?

For what it's worth, I am now 45 and I still have to remind my mother sometimes that I am a grown-up and capable of looking after myself... The parent/child mentality is hard to shake off.

S'Groundhog day.

Yes you are still a child.

As your immature scattergunning of t'internet shows.

4 and counting....

Do you think that people who post repeated threads on the same topic but then don't engage with anyone who tries to help them is a child?

Because, frankly, I do.

So many threads, so little time

I've answered in your other thread

Yes you are still a child. When I was 17 I had a job (as well as studying for my A-Levels), and therefore no time to waste on the Internet. Maybe you should do the same?

Oh, hello again.

You are really obsessed with this, aren't you?

psst ... that shows a lack of maturity.

a 17 year old is still a child. Legally and very often emotionally.

a 17 yr old who persists on grabbing hold of adults on the internet and badgering them about whether or not a 17 year old is an adult is very much a child.

Pet, I have to ask - are you going to keep going until you get a thread that says nothing but yes, a 17 year old is an adult, and then wave it under your mum's nose? Look mum, strangers on the internet say 17 is an adult, so you HAVE to treat me like one... stomp stomp huff slam.

when I was 18, I stomped round my home yelling YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO, I'M 18 NOW.

really showing maturity, eh?

Stop asking. stop obsessing. stop seeking some sort of validation from strangers on the net and you will be a step closer to being a grown up than you are right now.

it depends tbh

a 17 year old, holding down a job, paying their own bills, doing their own washing, cleaning, funding their own life is an adult in my eyes.

a 17 year old who starts multiple threads asking the same question hoping to get an answer that satisfies her is a child IMO.

does that help?

Meant to say - you were doing the 17yr old thing a few weeks ago under a different name. honestly, please, not having a go - what do you want from us?

I moved out at 16, was living with and in a relationship with an older DP who also had a child. At 17 I worked full time. I felt very grown up.
9 years later I realise that I was an adult practically but emotionally I was very much less mature then than I am now.

I regard my 16yo as pretty well an adult because:

she behaves like an adult

she speaks like an adult

she understands that being adult is very much about taking responsibility for your actions and fulfilling the duties of an adult

she understands that because she is not quite there with the adult duties yet (we are still supporting her and giving her a home) she will also have to wait with some of the adult freedoms

If in a year's time she were to revert to speaking and behaving like a child, I would think of her as a child.

I view you as a child because of the huge immaturity you've shown here. I know more mature 10 year olds

Go easy please, people.

What we know from Leah/Sophie's many threads is that she is a 17yo who has been self-harming and who is very angry and upset that her school has made a child protection referral about her, and told her she will have to repeat/go back a year.

She is clearly distressed and vulnerable. It sounds like she may have some mental health issues and she clearly needs help and support.

So please, go easy or ignore, though I know these multiple threads are annoying...

Sophie/Leah, you won't get the support and answers you need here. Talk to some real life adults - even if it's just one adult you like. They might annoy you because they won't treat you as adult now, but most of them will try to help you become adult as soon as possible.