why did i get reported for self harm by my school

[leah8001996]

when I'm legally an adult 16 17 next month. also where do the reports of self harm go ?

you're not an adult until 18. school has duty of care.

Hi, wanted you to have a quick reply, though no direct experience of this.

The school reported because they care about you. If you are self harming then you need help from someone - GP, parents, CAMHS, someone.

Legally an adult is a moot point. You don't get full adult rights until you are 18 (eg at 16 you can't drive, or buy alcohol, or vote). You may feel you are all grown up, but tbh, you won't be until you are 25 or more.

If I had a friend who was self harming I would try to get them to seek help, or if appropriate, I would tell their partner, or sibling, or GP.

Please if you are self harming, seek help, and take care of yourself.

Best wishes.

It is their duty to.
My school got the school nurse in when they finally worked it out. It wasn't particularly helpful I admit but it was easier when people knew what was going on.
Stay safe.

ah, sorry I see youARE a 16 yr old who wants to be an adult. got it now.

sorry mums net is mostly parents so, as a rule you'll get parent typereplies. a 16 yr old it's still a child. You are now even nearly an adult. You are very lucky that things like self harm are taken seriously and, as a child there are structures in place to protect you.

Because they have a duty of care for you

Hello leah8001996.

What do you think you would like to do about your self-harming?

They'll help and support you. They have to do this as they have a duty of care towards the children they look after. You seem fixated on your age though Leah. 17 is not legally an adult and even an 18 year old would be treated as a child in this same situation.

Sometimes, we can get so fixated on how angry we are about other people's responses that we forget to ask ourselves/think about what we would like done.

Can you spend a few minutes thinking about how you see yourself, with regard to your self-harming, in (for example) ten years time? And in, say, a year's time? And how you might like to get from here, now, to either of those two points? What do you think - from yourself, from others - might help?

yawn............

ah. The background to all the other threads.

OP - please see a real-life grown up for help.

Leah, if you don't want help from your school, would you consider contacting the National Self Harm Support group? It's a self-help group for people who self-harm - you will find lots of people who have similar experiences to you and understand what you are going through.

I understand what you are saying. You know that you can make your own medical decisions once you are 16, and self-harming is medical.

However, self-harming isn't just medical - the wound is, but the reason is psychological. The school has a duty of care towards you with regard to your emotional well-being and the medical side, even if you then make a decision with the medical issues at hospital, etc.

It's a legal thing. If the school know that you are self harming then they have to note it down, in case you do it at school and it goes wrong, and then you try to sue them.