My almost 14yrs DS is a normal, polite, sensitive, bright, boy who has become completely obsessed with 2 girls in his year since January. Since then he has started getting into trouble at school, his attitude has changed, his grades have dropped and all he seems to do is text these girls obsessively. The only silver lining is that it appears to be reciprocated. His Head of Year has written warning me that these girls are seen as a bad influence on him, although couldn't give me any advice as to how to handle it. He is now 'officially' dating one of them and they are constantly texting how much they love each other.
I've started to remove his phone over night as I've stopped trusting him to not text her. he met up with these girls yesterday and apparently spent 6hrs sitting around our little village and the park just chatting. Don't judge me too harshly but I checked his messages for the first time ever and, basically, it appears that they jumped on a train somewhere and my Ds and his harlot girlfriend spent part of the 6 hours with their tops off groping each other. I obv don't have all facts but this would appear to be the situation.
Question - have I completely invaded his privacy and do I deserve to be shot? Should I own up to what I've done and bollock him for lying and ground him? Should I just be a lot stricter as to his whereabouts in the future? Should I mention the groping in public?
I have no doubt now that this is a very dangerous relationship these 3 have going on - full of teenage angst and drama - and my son sees himself as responsible for these girls' emotional wellbeing....to the detriment of everything else. I have no doubt that he will lie if he has to in order to see her.
How do I manage this situation??? I feel clueless!