Adult attacked my child

[Fraggle15]

Recently i had a grown man pushing me about, my 14 year old son saw him about half hour after and asked the man why he did this to his mum. The man smashed a glass/bottle in my sons face and they ended up scuffling on the floor, within minutes the mans family came running around the corner kicking my son in the head. I immediately reported this to the police who kindly took my son to the hospital but made no effort to find the thugs who did this. 2 days later the man walks into the police station admitting that he hit my son, but said my son attacked him first. There are no witnesses and no CCTV footage so basically nothing will happen. What i don't get is the fact that i am not allowed to hit, slap or punch my child, but another adult is allowed to glass and punch him. If my child hit first the other man should of restrained him, not hit back. How has this man got away with attacking my child, i am puzzled and wish there was more i could do :((

Fraggle, I am so sorry this has happened. It is utterly appalling. :( Your anger, fear, and feelings of powerlessness must be really terrible.

If this were me, I think I would swing between wanting to push this man under a bus, chop him into pieces, prosecute him and have him locked up, and flee the country to live abroad.

I do not know how/if this man has got away with attacking your child, but if he does, that is not, not, NOT fair. I can only hope that if the police and courts can't get him, karma does.

If ever MN needed a >HUG< icon, it's now.

Thinking about it, Fraggle... Even if your son had attacked him first, the law on self-defense would allow the man to use reasonable force - not to glass anyone in the face, or then get their family to kick him in the head.

I am not a lawyer, but I think I would want legal advice in your situation, because I think there is enough evidence to build a prosecution: there is motive, several witnesses (you, your son, the attending police officers and the hospital staff), and a confession FFS.

I hope your son is OK now.

That's outrageous, I'm so sorry this has happened.

Why was the man pushing you around? Hope that you don't bump in to him again.

I really think u need to seek advice on this....

Bloody hell. Sounds horrific.
Why though was the man pushing you around first? is he a relative or friend.

I would agree with flow . I am not in the UK but would imagine that even if it really was a case of self defence as this man is claiming he would still only have the right to reasonably defend himself. I can not for a second see how anyone could class glassing someone & getting their family to kick him in the head as anything close to reasonable. I would be speaking to someone in a legal field about this, it just doesn't sound right. This clearly wasn't self defence but if that is what is being claimed why would a grown man need to use this kind of force against a child ? Good luck getting this sorted, it really needs further looking in to.

Don't be silly fraggle. If anyone glassed your son in the face and admitted it they will be charged with ABH.

How big is your 14 yo? I have one next door that's built like a brick shithouse, and if he walked up to a thug in the street and started something, I have no doubt he'd get a good kicking, without any thought as to how old he might be.

Nice that he was trying to protect you, but 30 minutes after a bit of aggro he thought he'd play the hero? I'll be teaching my kids not to approach violent thugs. They are welcome to step in if someone being hurt at the time, and intervene, but to wade in when everything is calm thirty minutes after a bit of argy bargy? Sadly, pointless.

Hope he's okay.

bloody hell where do you live?!

if it is as you say (why we're you getting pushed around? do you know this man?) then yes, you should be able to press charges.

Why was the grown man pushing you about? What does grown man and pushing about mean? How old and what did he do?

I take it you haven't actually had much real experience with the criminal justice system, prissy?

My son has been beaten up... Known perpetrator, no action.

He was knocked unconscious and had his eye blacked by a boy 5 years older than him because he told him to f-off... No action.

My friend's son was attacked at knife point and had his leg broken by someone now in prison for murder... The guy was interviewed but released without charge.

My car wing mirrors were kicked off 4 weeks running... No evidence, no action.

I was burgled and had my tv stolen... No evidence, no action. (In that case, I'm pretty sure the police assumed my son was involved, so didn't bother investigating).

I had a flower pot thrown thru my window. This time, I watched it happen and recognised the perpetrator, but the police said they were reluctant to pursue without an 'independent' witness. A neighbour came forward and made a statement, so they arrested the young man. He admitted it and received a caution. But I was told I would need to take out a private prosecution if I wanted to claim any damages... So, action - but not very useful action.

I think the police often take the view that, when it comes to teenagers, "these things happen", and if they think they can avoid prosecuting, they will try.

Good god. That's awful.

Had the police not responded to your report of this man pushing you around within that half an hour?

I would complain, if I were you, about all of it.