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Heartbroken DS15 :(

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scherazadey · 18/06/2013 10:39

Poor DS15 has liked a girl in year below aged 14 since before Christmas. She is very pretty and he is totally infatuated with her, saying she is his ideal girl in every way! She is (in my opinion) leading him on, although she is only 14 and I don't think she means to hurt him! She says she will meet up with him at weekends then cancels, texts him for hours every evening but doesn't want to make any commitment. She has 'got off' with him twice at parties but blows very hot and cold. If however he doesn't text her for a day or so she becomes all clingy and demands to know if he still likes her. This weekend just gone she arranged to meet him then cancelled and said she was going to a party of a girl in her year. By coincidence DS ended up at same party as friend he was with that night was invited to come along by another girl. On arrival he found her kissing a boy in her own year, someone she had never spoken to or shown any interest in until that night. DS is devastated and I don't know what to say to him to make him feel better :( They have stopped speaking completely and he is at a total loss as all he did before during the evenings was text her. He wouldn't go to school on Monday as he said everybody would be talking about it and has been on the brink of tears this morning. DD16 is furious with the girl, saying she's a total bitch etc which isn't helping. Any advice please?

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happystory · 18/06/2013 14:02

poor ds. sorry to sound harsh but that's life Sad

Jimalfie · 18/06/2013 15:35

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doolallylass · 18/06/2013 19:02

So sorry for you DS and you but it sounds like its for the best. Whether she meant it or not she's high maintenance. He'll find happy times with someone else when this all calms down. Biscuit

lolidayplanning · 18/06/2013 19:05

My advice would be the same to anyone who has had their heart broken no matter when their age, "It will feel like shit. It might feel shit for a while but one day you'll suddenly feel better about it all." Give him lots of love. Usually I'd recommend wine and chocolate but maybe skip the wine! He really should go to school though. Bless him!

TheRealFellatio · 18/06/2013 19:08

Oh my goodness, this is all SO normal! Please try not to blame her too much. I'm sure she likes him but maybe she just feels a bit freaked out by the strength of his feelings for her. Kissing a random boy at a party is one thing (quite standard practice to snog anyone and everyone at a party as I recall Shock) but when you know someone really likes you a lot it can be scary. Maybe she likes him too but just doesn't feel ready to have anything more official or solid yet?

The best thing he could do is try to ease up a bit and play it cool. He has nothing to lose. Either she'll suddenly realise she misses his attention and she'll be all over him, or she won't bat an eyelid, in which case he can at least retain his dignity and keep his pride intact.

It's so tough being in love when you are very young. Sad

scherazadey · 19/06/2013 08:52

Thanks for the advice, I have had another chat with him and passed it on, particularly emphasising what TheRealFellatio said about playing it cool. He seems in a much better frame of mind this morning thankfully. It's horrible seeing your kid so upset and I've never had to deal with anything like this with DD16, pretty sure she'd be the one causing the heartbreak!

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