Hello all, this is my first post. I'm at my wits end. I have a 14 year old daughter who has always achieved top in school and people love her she is the perfect child in many ways. She witnessed her father be violent towards me but has never let the domestic violence effect her school work. 6 years ago I divorced and then met my current partner who we have lived with for nearly all this time as we lost our home. In the past 6 months she has started to self harm, she is seeing counsellors and I understand that there won't be a quick fix. I have some disabilities and whilst my new partner is great with us both, he gives us everything we could want, sometimes he feels that he is not appreciated and that she disrespects him in his home, I'm sure she doesn't disrespect him but I feel stuck in the middle and I end up falling put with both of them for them to then become best of friends. They do really love each other but when they have problems hate each other too. I don't know how to progress it's driving me around the bend and also making my disabilities worse as stress kicks my illnesses off. Help???