DS HAS TOLD ME HE IS BISEXUAL

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DS (15) has told me he is bisexual and has got feelings for a gay boy (16) whom he is friends with. I was shocked but hopefully I came across as understanding and supportive. I don't want to speak to any one in RL about this as even now I feel that I am breaking his trust. But I really need some advice as how to handle this.

Equally historically many bisexuals rapidly say they are gay to access the support of that community, which has been very anti-bi in the past but is mostly a lot better now, especially for under-25s.

PFLAG are good, and for bi-specific stuff you could look up resources via Bi Community News, the Bisexual Index, or BiCon (national conference and convention, in Edinburgh this year).

If he was mine I'd probably say something like " Tell me something I didn't all ready know/guess " or similar to let him know that it's no big deal, whilst letting him know I had heard and was happy he could talk to me.If you want support I'm here and can find you the support you need if I can't do it myself but just be you.

However I'd expect also that in what ever relationship he makes sure the sex is legal and safe, jut as I would with his sisters.

I'm in a similar situation. DS came out recently and I was concerned about homophobia.

He said it's not a huge deal, but all of his friends are girls.

As long as DC know about safe sex and you talk to them about healthy relationships and potentially abusive relationships, I think that's the main thing. It doesn't matter whether they are straight, bi or gay.

I think it's great that you two have the kind of relationship where you can be open about this. You sounds like a lovely mum.