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Son besotted with girlfriend about to have a life lesson AGAIN

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hollolew2 · 02/06/2013 22:25

My DS didn't really work at school but got good GCSE'S . Then in sixth form they introduced girls and my DS fell head over heels for his GF. Nice girl new to the area but since them everything went up in smoke he got terrible As and didn't really recover although his A2 s weren't bad he didn't get his grades. He missed his Uni place and GF went to Uni and broke up with him be was in a right state and everything went a bit downhill for a while ( he's at college doing resits) but he picked himself up started going out etc then she straits phoning him saying she wants to get back together so they did . and although he's a popular kid made lots of friends at college all he's done is sit around waiting for her to phone or come down for the weekend. Flash forward to tonite they were meant to be going away in the summer but now she's booked to go away with her friends and only has a little bit of money to go away with him . He turned down going away with his friends because he may miss a day with her !!! Whilst she's partying going away with her mum and living the life of Riley ! I want to pick him up and shake him but can't say anything as 1 he won't take any notice of me! 2 he's got 3 exams coming up which will decide if he actually goes to Uni I know that staying at home this summer ( hopefully working but he won't sort that out until he's booked something with her!) wont kill him.this evening he asked me to help finding flights etc but she won't commit to anything she just says too expensive too late etc. which for her it is I asked why she booked with her friends when she promised him he just hung his head I left the computer and just patted him on the shoulder I wasn't gonna waste any more time . I don't want to sit down and talk to him about it until he's finished his exams equally I font want them to finish ( AGAIN) before these important exams advice lovely MN ers?

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mummytime · 03/06/2013 06:21

I would once his exams are over make it clear that he has to get a job, girlfriend or no girlfriend, and start to contribute to the family. I would also invite my son on my family holiday.

Otherwise I would bite my tongue and let him grow up/realise that the GF is using him for himself.

It is one of the tough aspects of being a parent.

Fairylea · 03/06/2013 06:38

Ahhh young love :) horrible isn't it.

I agree with the poster above. I don't think there's really anything you can do apart from be supportive and let it run it's course unfortunately.

exoticfruits · 03/06/2013 06:56

It is the are part of being a parent- there is nothing you can do - except give support when he will, inevitably, need it.

exoticfruits · 03/06/2013 06:57

Sorry iPad- the hard part of being a parent.

hollolew2 · 03/06/2013 07:19

Thankfully he's quite keen on the job just as long as it fits round her . He's been working but gave up when he started his exams but yes I agree will pin him down . I poped into his room and said why dont you just leave it for now your exams finish in yen days them you can worry about it I got shouted at hope it got through !

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monikar · 03/06/2013 12:21

Oh dear, it is so hard when we can see them making mistakes and can't do anything to help. Unfortunately, it is only by being let down by a gf will he see for himself what has been happening and it isn't something you can point out to him, as he won't listen when you tell him, as in his eyes at the moment, she is just perfect. All you can do is step back and be there to pick up the pieces when things go wrong. It is a path they have to walk alone and it is very hard for us mums to let them.

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