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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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17 year old DD and sex!

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Myliferocks · 31/03/2013 16:41

My 17 year old DD1 has just told me that she has had sex with her boyfriend.
I know she's legal.
I know they both used contraception.
Tmi from her but he used a condom and she is on the pill for her endometriosis.

So why do I feel so weird about the fact that she has had sex?

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juneybean · 31/03/2013 16:42

Because she's your baby? :)

Toasttoppers · 31/03/2013 16:43

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Myliferocks · 31/03/2013 16:44

Definitely Juneybean!

I knew she was growing up but that just seems to make her seem even more grown up iyswim.

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Indith · 31/03/2013 16:45

What they said!

Congratulate yourself on bringing up a dd who is sensible enough to use plenty of contraception and comfortable enough to talk about it with you.

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Myliferocks · 31/03/2013 16:46

I was happy just thinking she had. I really didn't need her to confirm it. Seems far more real now!

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Myliferocks · 31/03/2013 16:47

I did feel a little glow Indith that she was able to tell me!

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Bowlersarm · 31/03/2013 16:47

It just doesn't feel right talking about your child's sex life with your child. My DS also 17 is very keen to chat to me about his sex life but I feel like putting my fingers in my ears so I can't hear!

However I know that the mature thing to do is to appreciate that he feels comfortable enough with me to want to discuss it, but it is difficult

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Myliferocks · 31/03/2013 16:48

It's up there with thinking that your own parents don't have sex!

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tipp2chicago · 31/03/2013 16:52

You're very lucky.

She could be like the Irish teenagers who are, evidently, all having threesomes.

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Myliferocks · 31/03/2013 16:55

tipp2chicago nooooooooooooo!
I'm quite liberal but even I wouldn't want to know if she was doing that.

There are limits on what a parent would like to know!

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SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 31/03/2013 18:32

My son wont be having a gf/bf til hes 30 and he wont be having sex til I'm dead and buried!

Hes 3 at the moment so i get away with thinking like this.

My mum has only ever done the deed to make children. So she has only ever done it 7 times. I have to accept that due to been the oldest of 7.

seeker · 31/03/2013 18:41

Oh god, please no!

syl1985 · 03/04/2013 02:19

No it's not weird that you feel strange about knowing that your daughter had sex.

I think that most people don't want to know anything about anyone's sexual life in the family.

Not from our own parents and not from our children.
But we need to take care of our children and be there when they need us. So we do need to sit down and listen. If they want to talk to us, about their sex life.

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