Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

frightened about what will happen

3 replies

cosisnotarealword · 12/02/2013 18:01

me and my dd age 15 have to meet a head social worker and a member of the police family liasion unit tomorrow, to cut to the chase, she got herself into a situation last year and it was dealt with. it was done quietly and with as little fuss as possible. we live in n.i so had to fly over to the mainland.
the last year has been hell for her and for me and her dad. she has insisted that she continue to see this boy as she threatened to do something to herself if we didnt. he lives in south of ireland, she eventually agreed to counselling last week so all systems kicked in with social services. we have no problem with ss being invloved, in fact we welcome any help as we are floundering here. we saw a psychiatrist last week and she says dd has no psychiatric illness and that me and dh have done what we can and to keep reassuring her and telling her that we are here for her. the case has now been handed over to a new sw team and the police now have to be involved because of 2 reasons 1, she was underage 2. she now says we forced her into having the procedure. she told me and dh that she would lie for us tomorrow to the police even though we were wrong and that we made her do this. she never, ever indicated to me or the clinic that this was not what she wanted. i fear that the boy is asserting himself over her. i could cry, my dh cant make the meeting tomorrow so its me on my lonesome. i will tell the police and sw that she said she would lie for us. i dont think i can take much more
the first sw who dealt with us over the past fortnight has indicated we can be charged !wtf?
any advice , the meeting is at 10 am tomorrow , please remember me in your thoughts and prayers as i am so frightened

OP posts:
Jayne266 · 12/02/2013 18:21

It's a bit hard not knowing what happened for example if it was something to her body that she was of legal age then surely she is responsible for herself. I think I would keep a record of everything that has happened and let them know that you are happy that ss etc have been involved and that you have welcomed them. I hope you and your family are ok.

AnythingNotEverything · 12/02/2013 18:24

Charged? What would you be charged with? (and yes, I think I understand what happened with "the situation".

I generally think you're best off being honest in these situations ... but I don't know what the ramifications are in NI.

Let us know ...

Jayne266 · 12/02/2013 18:31

Sorry had to read again I understand do you know what the law is on this situation regarding a 15 year old

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread