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Always seeing 15 year old boyfriend?

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febel · 18/01/2013 18:43

Just a quick post re 15 year old relationships and a bit of advice!

My 15 year old youngest daughter (other two girls are 22 and 20 and not really living at home, tho we do see the 20 year old at least twice a week) has been going out with a lad at her school for around 18months. He is a nice enough lad, and they are good mates as well as girlfriend and boyfriend, altho she does seem to dominate him when at our house (!) She does seem to want to have him round at ours a lot/go round there a lot. She spent New Years Eve at his, leaving one of us to be "dry" in order to pick her up, but fair does, we,unusually,weren't doing much. Not really had this with our elder two....they did have boyfriends but didn't really spend time with them at weekends etc. She does have friends at school but doesn't see them out of school, and never has really. We have talked about the eggs in one basket etc but she reacts by shouting she is fine and knows what she is doing....and perhaps she does but her life is very interlinked with his now..god knows what she'd do if she ever fell out with him. (I don't think it has got to the sex physical stage, but who knows..) She is also kicking off about not going away in the summer too much..and we have nobody we could leave her with and I wouldn't leave her home alone I'm afraid. It also gives us very little family time as it were...and again..didn't have this with my other two.

Don't really feel there is a lot we can do...she's asked if he can come round tomorrow, and they will spend the day together and then the evening too..but feel I should let it ride? It is difficult cos she is on her own with us otherwise.

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chocoluvva · 19/01/2013 00:16

I don't really have any advice I'm afraid, but I noticed your post hasn't had a reply...

My 15YO DD saw a lot of her BF until they broke up after 10 months, shortly after she was 16. Unlike your DD, she had continued to see her friends, though less than usual. I think she really missed the texting, which had become IMO an unhealthy habit. Although she was very upset she seemed to bounce back quickly but also, she was more cheerful and playful again than while she'd been going out with him within a very short time.

He was about the only thing we rowed about. She hated it if I tried to impose 'sensible' time limits on seeing him so I bit my tongue as much as I could ( didn't always manage though) and now I'm glad I did.

Does your DD have any hobbies?

chocoluvva · 19/01/2013 00:18

Do you know how his parents feel about him spending a lot of time at yours?

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