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Help.. not met this one before....

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jules27 · 13/04/2006 16:45

My teenage step daughter is causing me a bit of a problem , we are going to very sunny Ibiza in August and we have been out trying to buy clothes . She is 15 and normally wears very baggy jeans and over sized sweatshirts. I have tried to explain that this wont be possible to wear these clothes and that prehaps she should be looking at shorts and skirts as these will keep her coooler. She is a lovely size 10 and very pretty , but is refusing to to even entertain the idea of any thing not denim . She has said she might wear 3/4lenths(denim) . We are now rowing over this and ending up with us both in tears. Anyone been to a hot place with a child that wont strip of her winter clothes...AM I BEING COMPLETLY STUPID ON THIS ONE ... HELP

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monkeytrousers · 13/04/2006 17:14

Don't have a teenager but couldn't you just let her take her favorite outfit and you take a few shorts, 3/4 pants, tshirts and sandals for her anyway? She'll soon get hot and uncomfortable. Just give her them when you get there and leave it up to her - no pressure as that's probably what she's rebelling against.

Also how about going for a fun shop for a sun hat?

spursmum · 13/04/2006 17:17

My brother went to Cyprus in full skater/punk look. I PMSL when I got the phone call saying that he bought himself a new wardrobe when he got out there!!!
My advice is to pack a few essentials just in case because you know you'll end up doing her packing!!Wink

collision · 13/04/2006 17:20

Let her be hot!! She will soon say sorry for being a pain! And she will look silly in her jeans and tops.

Secretly pack some other stuff for her and she will be begging to wear it!!

Am so glad mine arent teenagers yet! Grin

Janh · 13/04/2006 17:22

Could you find very baggy trousers in a thin cotton weave and over-sized T-shirts instead of sweatshirts?

Or, as you're not going until August, why not postpone the shopping until (if ever) the weather gets up in the 20s here so she remembers what it feels like?

MadameDeMars · 13/04/2006 17:23

I wouldn't worry too much about it. Most mums have the opposite problem... trying to get their teenage girls to cover up and put more clothes on lol.

She'll probably feel differently come the summer, but if she doesn't it's no bad thing.

zephyrcat · 13/04/2006 17:28

I was exactly the same when I was that age. I didn't (and still don't!) 'do' skirts/shorts or anything remotely girly! I used to go in 3/4 legnth baggy shorts and vests or t-shirts. Yes it was bloody hot but it was more important at the time to look cool!! I'd just let her do her thing...

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mumeeee · 23/04/2006 12:29

I have 3 teenage girls aged 19.16 and 14 and none of them like wearing shorts. They will wear crop trousers but prefer to wear denim ones as does your daughter. Apparently it is not cool to wear shorts and no one does nowadays? The 2 older ones will now wear skirts but wouldn't have done this a couple of years ago?
Just let her pack what she wants to if she gets too hot she will learn by her own mistakes.
All three of my daughters do thier own packing although I do oversee the 14 year olds as she is dyspraxic and tends to forget things. But i let her take what she wants to.

SoupDragon · 23/04/2006 12:34

Just let her be.

She's a teenager!

WibbleWobbleBum · 23/04/2006 12:40

I'd just let her get on with it and wear what she wants to wear - she's old enough to decide whether she wants to wear shorts or not. I doesn't really sound to me as if it's worth rowing and shedding tears over - pick your battles and save the rows for the really important stuff.

XxXKatXxX · 22/08/2006 10:38

I have a friend whose a total goth and went to spain on holiday for 3 weeks,before she went there was endless rows in her household with her mum and stepdad about wearing summery things but no she wouldn't,she went away and as you know most goths always wear black and the entire holiday she wore black jeans or black cords and black jumpers and tops with platform trainers all day everyday. When she came home she showed me her holiday puictures and i said "how the hell did you cope in all that black in that heat" and she simply replied "it was bloody hard but out of principal i managed it" so chances are out of principal she may stay wearing her usual clothes all holiday but on the other hand she may cave in and realise shes been a bit unreasonable so maybe just take a few summery thing with you at least then when and if she says shes too hot you can also have the satisfaction of saying " i told you so" and may end up laughing it off.
Good luck!

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