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Thoroughly disturbing find in son's bedroom

121 replies

Bulldogjan74 · 14/12/2012 01:55

Hi there, I'm new to the form so hopefully Im in the right place!

I just found something very disturbing in my son's bedroom - a number of books actually. I confronted him about it, asking him where and how he got them, and he said he got them from his teacher as recommendation.

Now. My son is a smart kid so is in a top-level English class at school (and wants to become a doctor!) so gets recommendations all the time, but I thought this time it goes a bit far. Angry

I found these books;

Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov - what appears to be a book about a paedophile that targets a twelve year old girl.

Death in Venice by Thomas Mann - a book about a predator that goes after and stalks a fourteen year old boy in Venice

Naked Lunch by William S. Burroughs - a very bad book filled with heavy drug use, prostitution, swearing (including the c-word) and what appears to be hardcore pornography. I won't go into anymore details - its too repulsive to even talk about.

He got the later book at a library, not from the school, but I still think it's worrying!

I understand also that some of these are 'classics'! What are these so-called intellectuals and the government thinking letting these books be available to the public and my son! Angry I don't know what to do. As I said, these are only a couple of recommendations, but this is bad right?

OP posts:
EdBird · 14/12/2012 13:12

Thanks for this OP. Gave me a good giggle over lunch lol

ThePathanKhansWitch · 14/12/2012 13:28

This is a stealth boast isn,t it?.

If you find Fifty shades of Shite, be afraid.Grin.

notcitrus · 14/12/2012 13:52

Pretty sure they were in the list of 100 classics to read that my English teacher gave us at that age.

Now if it was the Story of O, Justine by de Sade, and Fifty Shades, and it turned out the teacher had recommended them, (classic erotica but hardly a general classic, interesting historical artefact but unreadably obsessive, and pile of crap about drippy woman, respectively), you'd have a point. But if he'd just looked in the library for books most likely to have dirty bits, then good luck to him!

flow4 · 14/12/2012 15:14
Grin I'm really glad to see you familiarised yourself with these shocking books by reading them and summarising their plots before sharing your concerns, OP... You are clearly a responsible parent and I have full confidence that you will be able to deal with this situation appropriately. (BTWyou enjoy most?!)
LadyIsabellasHollyWreath · 14/12/2012 15:31

I can imagine that a male teacher attempting to seduce a bright teenaged boy (since I think this is what the OP is pretending to be afraid of) might suggest he read Naked Lunch and possibly, at a stretch, Death in Venice. But he'd have to be a total idiot to think that Lolita would achieve his desired outcome.

SaskiaRembrandtVampireHunter · 14/12/2012 15:39

That's nothing OP! At primary school age my sons were encouraged to read a dreadful book full of murder, rape, incest, slavery and other nastiness. Can't remember the title ... something like, the Bible?

borisjohnsonshair · 14/12/2012 15:46

I opened this thread expecting you'd found tin foil, lighters and a stash of illegal drugs!

Honestly, they're three brilliant books; don't worry about it. Just be glad it's not 50 Shades of crap Grey.

atacareercrossroads · 14/12/2012 15:49

Great books, which is his fave?

Shagmundfreud · 14/12/2012 15:59

"Lolita is vile. But it's part of the canon, dontcha know."

Lolita is NOT vile. Lolita is tender and full of pity. T'is one of my favourite books and is VERY moral.

Not so this: vile which really is perverse and truly, truly nasty. Don't let your kids read it!

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 14/12/2012 16:43

erk, shagmund, it makes you wonder what kind of mind could write "fiction" like that Xmas Shock

LaCiccolina · 14/12/2012 16:47

Dick for brains plainly...

Muppet.

lljkk · 14/12/2012 17:10

Technically Lolita is a book about hebephilia, not paedophilia. Which are different levels of pervertedness, I think it can be argued. And it's not a book that glorifies it, anyway.

CheerfulYank · 14/12/2012 17:54

I know plenty of people who find Lolita repugnant, and it's not because they "don't understand it."

I think it's beautifully written, and I'm always surprised anew that English is Nabakov's second language.

LapsedPacifist · 14/12/2012 18:43

Actually, I think English is Nabakov's THIRD language, after Russian and French! Shock

IMHO 'Lolita' is far less shocking than his novel 'Ada', featuring an incestous relationship between two (utterly amoral) siblings which starts when they are only 12 and 14.

OP not back yet? Grin

flow4 · 14/12/2012 18:49

The OP is probably busy reading... Wink

extracrunchy · 14/12/2012 18:50

This is ridiculous. These are all important works of literature. And it's not as though he won't already be aware of the subject matter.

OTheYuleManatee · 14/12/2012 18:51

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Grin

OP, have you seen what they put in computer games and films these days? Your son sounds delightful, taking an interest in classic works of literature, aspiring to medicine and taking reading recommendations from his teacher. And you 'confronted' him?

LeBFG · 14/12/2012 19:35

The only disturbing thing (for me) is I really know someone in RL who is worse than OP Shock. Seriously. She would have burnt OP's books had she found them - and probably classed Twilight as semi-pornographic....

mumzy · 14/12/2012 19:36

Stealth boast methinks!

ImperialBlether · 14/12/2012 19:48

I thought so too! Bragging again, OP?

MurderOfGoths · 14/12/2012 19:50

LeBFG Tbf if I ever catch my DC with the Twilight books I'd burn them too Grin

ripsishere · 15/12/2012 00:23

And still she hasn't come back.

LineRunner · 15/12/2012 00:25

You style of posting seems so familiar tonight, OP ...

SPsFanjoIsSantasLittleHoHoHo · 15/12/2012 00:27

I haven't read any of those books.

teapot5 · 17/12/2012 12:35

I read and watched a film for the first two (Lolita and Death in Venice) when I was 12, and turned out ok (I think).

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