menstruation stopped

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My dd is 14 and had her first period in June this year, followed by a second almost exactly four weeks later. However, there has been nothing since then. Is this normal? Nothing else has really changed during this time!

She is not remotely worried. I myself was reassured by the number of people who said that it is quite normal to be irregular to start with. If I was worried, I would do something, honestly!

Stickem..... In fact, a large number of people are judging me.

What is an RL expert?

What the heck do 'stereo typical moulds' have to do with anything?

I think most people here are saying, be aware that things like this happen to all sorts of girls from all sorts of backgrounds, its you that thinks only girls that sleep around get pregnant!

No one has made accusations about you or your daughter.

Get a grip.

Well if you are not worried yoi have nothing to lose by doing a preg test just to be sure.

Your own prejudices are making you feel judged, because you seem to think only a certain kind of 14 year old gets pregnant.

So if you are not worried, and your daughter is not remotely worried, what's the problem? Have a GP check and there you go.

Do you not realise that a lot of people had sexual relationships at the age of 14? So you being 'offended' that your precious DD may have done the same is insulting to a lot of people.
Do you not understand that?

If she's away at boarding school, how do you know her periods have stopped? Or did she tell you?

I know that all kinds of girls get pregnant and I know that it only takes once for it to happen. I also know that it is not possible for my daughter to be pregnant. Kind of like I know it is dark outside. I don't need to look, but i know it is. Some relationships and situations are just like that.

I am not worried now. Was a little concerned to begin with but have been reassured, as I said.

OP, knowing that periods can be irregular at first is pretty standard knowledge and I think something you should know as a mother of a teenage daughter.

Unless you have spent every second of every day of the last 6 months with your daughter, then you dont 'know' for sure she isn't pregnant.

Agree with MaryZ- it was the 'I'm offended you even asked' comment that got people annoyed.

Maryz from my posts you know that I mentioned that she had a friend, who is a boy, several months ago (he is still her friend) and that the gap jeans labelled with her age do not fit her. I tongue in cheek said she must be overweight because of the large number of people that posted that hey were in fact too big for their dd. If anything, she is underweight, which is why I said that I would suspect an eating disorder before pregnancy. Although in reality, I didn't suspect it, it would just be more likely.

I asked her if she had had a period since he summer as I know t was all new to her and wanted to make sure she was coping OK.

We talk lots. Perhaps a good half hour solid, one to one via Skype (normally) everyday as well as texts and emails etc. I spend most of either Saturday or Sunday with her every weekend that she doesn't come home. I suspect that hat is more than most people spend actually one to one with their teenagers as time spent with my other daughter is more often than not interrupted.

Pressed post too soon.

If you'd have simply said 'no, I can see why you'd assume she was pregnant butt it's not likely because of X,Y and Z' you'd have got far fewer comments.

Do you feel like people are attacking your parenting skills and the relationship you have with your daughter? Because they're really, really not.

I had a boyfriend at 14 who my parents thought I only saw very occasionally. After a day of throwing up following the morning after pill, I came clean and my mum nearly passed out in shock

No OP you've got muddled. The dd with the jeans who wouldn't fit is your 13yr old. The one who was 13 two weeks ago. The second of your two dds close in age. This dd - the one with the 'boy'friend is the one who was in Yr 9 last term so definately NOT 13 now and has recently moved school. The one who is 14. I can see it gets confusing.

I went to a "good" boarding school too. The 5th formers were accommodated at a separate location and we found out later that their housemistress used to let them out at night to do their own thing till all hours. One came back pissed up with a crew cut one night (eighties) and it all came out, housemistress was sacked, expulsions, big scandal......just sayin OP.

RL expert = real life expert, i.e. doctor

There are a range of possible causes. It's worth checking.

I said several pages back that perhaps I shouldn't have said that I was offended but I said it because I was. That is my prerogative and I still don't think that people needed to get on their hobby horses because I made one comment. Did get a bit confused, was trying to imply what people thought they knew about me by making assumptions. It was late and I stopped posting cos I was tired.

There is something, that all you people who think I am pompous and deluded have not considered. I have said openly that I at one point thought she may have an eating disorder. If I was that pompous I would have tried to sweep that under the carpet as well. An eating disorder is a mental illness with far reaching physical and emotional effects and can have a much greater impact on the long term future of a teenager than pregnancy. I have said that she isn't pregnant because I know she isn't. I said i considered an eating disorder because it is just very slightly possible.

If your daughter is underweight I would get her checked out they may have stopped because of her weight, get her checked out

I think you could do worse than reflect why you see her being pregnant as a reflection on you in any way though. She probably isn't, but if she was, it's not down to you!

I don't think her being pregnant would be a reflection on me. I would be sad, of course, if i felt that she couldnt talk to me but she can and she does. This whole thing is because for some equally sad reason people out there do not believe that it is possible to know and trust people as well as I know my family. I do feel rather sorry for those of you that think that this is so unusual!