Morning! New poster in this bit, just wanted some sage advice. My dd is relatively easy to parent; academic, sporty, conscientious. She's always been a very private child and I want to respect that. Last night I noticed she's put a password on her i-Pad. We have a rule that dh & I know everyone's passwords for everything.
I watched her enter it and this morning I snooped looked and saw that she's set up several new accounts, nothing bad, just fan mail for a boy band and posting pictures of them. But I don't recognise many of the people she's corresponding with.
My own teens were horrible and chaotic, and I made some stupid and unsuitable choices, so I really am at sea not wanting to project here. I know she's not me and maybe I'm just panicking in case she gets into the kind of trouble I did, though I don't have any signs of that, I just want to get it right.
How do I broach this with her without her feeling that I spied on her or don't trust her? She hates 'awkward mum' conversations, but opens up to dh. I'm worried that he'll go into overprotective mode and she'll clam up.
I know in the scheme of things this isn't the end of the world, but how do I nip this secretiveness in the bud, or is it all part of letting go? I'd be so grateful for a few perspectives on this?
TIA