My youngest daughter is 17, she's bright, talented, pretty. We are a stable family, been married for 20 years and have 2 daughters the eldest is 19 and studying to be a doctor. We are fairly comfortably off and I think have a good mix of expecting her to have a work ethic, but also getting stuff from us as our daughter and dependant. We provide her with a £30 per week allowance, we bought her driving lessons and a car for her 17th birthday, we love her very much.
When she was 15 she stole my credit card and withdrew money to buy clothes from top shop. She was grounded for 6 weeks and we took her phone and lap top off her for the same period. I thought she had learnt a lesson. But it's happening again.
To show trust she's been doing the banking for our business and over the last few weeks its been down between £20 and £40 each week. This week we confronted her and she admitted it. Why? because she wants to go on holiday with her mates and prefers to spend then save; steeling was her solution.
I don't know what to do, I don't know what to say, I feel so hurt and I am incredibly frustrated because as a person i'm driven by finding a solution - my mantra is 'there is always a way'. On this occasion i'm lost.