Underperforming 17 yr Son

[ScottishAnn]

Due to poor grades my 17 is now repeating his AS year - I've just seen the results from recent tests and they are very poor. I feel like I want to read the riot act but doubt that will do any good - any experience that has worked for any of you to change this behavior?

At the start of this repeat year we discussed what needs to change in his approach/attitude and he is the one who came up with the actions ....they seems to have fallen by the way side....

Goodness, thanks everyone, I wasn't expecting such attention...

I feel a bit of a fraud hearing people say I inspire them... That possibility didn't cross my mind when I posted, though I was thinking I might give the OP and maybe other people some hope. :)

I think we're all inclined to think that the really bad problems happen to other people's children, not our own... But we can be very wrong :( Even kids who are really well supported can go right off the rails at this age... But even ones who mess up quite badly can sort themselves out again... Like someone else said on another thread recently (I'm afraid I can't remember who) - at this age, pretty much anything can be sorted except babies and prison.

My son came home yesterday full of university excitement Never thought he would change but he has. i agree that this age is a minefield they just want to party My ds was lazy as they come for about 18 months and then he just turned a corner Good luck everyone x