My Ds 16 has completely lost it.
I took him out of school for an appointment today , he went off into a shop to get something and left his bag in the car. He had been being really suspicious with his bag so I had a look inside and found a large bong. I asked what the hell he was doing taking a bong to school... I know a lot of kids at his school smoke dope and he knows I dissaprove.
He went completely crazy at me invading his privacy and looking in his bag, and that if he wanted to take it to school he would and it was none of my f**ing business.
He refused to give it to me and ran off and either stashed it or gave it to a friend. I went after him and threatened to go into the school and tell the head. We talked or rather he shouted his head off, dented the car and spat ... He totally .lost the plot and went quite insane for a bit.
As he was in no state to go back into class and I wasn't sure if I wanted to involve the school I decided to take him home.
He is still really outraged that I went prying into his stuff and adamant that he will take his bong to school and smoke dope there if he wants......
I am completely flumoxed at his violent outburst/stupidity/ total lack of respect for any rules. should I tell the school ? I haven't found them very supportive in the past and they already know he's a smoker.
I am furious and want to punish him but also fear he is on the edge and If I go in too hard he will leave home and move in with his dodgy friend and his drug addict mum.
He really is convinced that its ME who has the problem and the fact that he is bothering to go to school and turning up for class means that he should be able to get stoned in his free periods !!!
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Ds totally lost the plot because I stopped him taking a bong to school !!!
justbreathe · 01/10/2012 20:12
I have had thought 'psychiatric problems or bi-polar' too, justbreathe :( TBH I think the boundary (i.e. between this kind of drug-reaction and an 'episode' of mental illness) is so blurred that it is meaningless. Just last week, DS1 walked in on me telling off DS2 (who'd spilled water near my laptop), and started to defend him. I told him to mind his own business, he kept shouting at me, I told him to "shut up" (I know. 
No-one can accuse me of walking on egg-shells!) and suddenly he was raging through the house, kicking over chairs, smashing a hand-made fruit-bowl, throwing things around, breaking a curtain rail and swinging it at things, screaming "cnt, btch, f*cking whore" etc., and (thankfully) storming off into the night... :( It all happened within about a minute, and writing it now sounds even less real than in felt.
Um, breathe, I don't want to make you paranoid, but my DS used to tell me he'd 'lost' things (and money) and it took me ages to work out he was actually selling them (or spending the money). Not only a laptop but also clothes and even shoes. It ought to be pretty easy to tell though: if he's as angry as you'd expect him to be, you probably don't need to be suspicious 
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That sounds truly hideous flow ! I know what you mean about the surreal quality of crazed outbursts.
I don't think he's sold it as I know he has 100 quid in his room. Also he's upset because he's lost all his music ,photos schoolwork etc. Surely he'd have backed them up B4 selling...
Mine has always been disorganised too. I think it unlikely to be handed in. I told him to put up a reward on facebook but will he get it together to do that ?... Hoping that as his life unravels more and more he may realise that perhaps smoking has something to do with it ! or maybe it will just add to his conviction that its all shit anyway so may as well get stoned.
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