hello everyone!,
im new to this site but im here through desperatley needing some advice..my son,has JUST turned 12 (hence this started at 11). basically this started with me checking 'internet history' on the laptop,which i do from time to time,and there it was allsorts of pornsites,pretty hardcore stuff aswell,i was horrified,but felt i dealt with it well by sitting him down and explaining that i knew what he'd been looking at (cringe!) and understood he was getting curious about things but these 'sites' weren't the places for a 12 yr old boy etc..etc... so that was the end of the laptop in his room and a password has been put on the laptop so he cant go on without me letting him...so i had sorted that part. then,not quite as serious,i noticed if i had been to the shop or arrived back a bit unexpectedly he would be dithering around with the tv remote,,to cut a long story short,everytime i left the house he was watching the freeview adult channels (babestation etc..) ..soo i didnt tell him i knew he'd been watching but again i put the password on the ''adult channels'' so he cant now access them...lastly,about 2 months ago i got him a new priceplan for his mobile with a different network (cheaper!) and immediatley got the parental locks put on in the shop,i was assured he wouldnt b able to access 18+ sites on his phone (but was aware they would probably be some going through the net) nevertheless,i felt assured and comfortable he had his phone...but last night..i checked his ''phone history'' and there it was again...allsorts of porn,some pretty sick in my eyes. i havent said anything to him because i dont know what to do! do i stop his internet access on his phone? am i wrapping him up in cotton wool? part of me thinks ''he's 12,he's growing up,porn is VERY easily accessed now compared to when i was his age'' (im 35) but tbh,most of me is thinking,he's a 12 yr old boy and i am VERY worried that the stuff he's been looking at is going to be damaging to him .... would you just let him have his phone and his privacy as a curious young boy?.... or,because youve had the 'porn' conversation before,just take off his internet on his phone?.. i don't no what to do for the best {-_-}