Should I let this bother me?

[CrazyDaizy]

Just back from a lovely 3 night break with my hubby. Our teens (nearly 19 and 16) stayed home. It's the longest they have been home alone without us. Daughter's best friend stayed over, which I was fine about. I did say NO parties/gatherings/get togethers, or whatever name it came under, it was not to happen in my house.

I do believe they had friends over, judging by empty drinking glasses in spare room, curtains still closed in spare room, other people's fleeces left here, a random camera case, blankets shoved down the side of the sofa downstairs...... I KNOW they've had others staying. They are not admitting to it, and are cagey when I ask, so I've not pushed it. No harm has been done.

Do I just accept that strangers have been in my home whilst I've been away? Or do I make an issue especially since I asked for no-one else to be here? Hubby and I are very private people, not very sociable (unlike our VERY sociable teens) so it's annoying to know our home has been invaded.

i went on holiday this year. i have a 19 year old. i told him to go to his sisters for a week.

the moral of the story is ...leaving teenagers in a house whilst you go away is like leaving smarties in the reach of a 3 year old after you told them to not eat them.

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You know, they know you know, so basically they are banking on you leaving it. What will happen next time you want to go away?

You are right "OhNoMyFoot" (haha, great name) We will go away as a couple again, maybe longer next time. I need to trust!!

Note to self...... leave more food in the cupboards next time LOL!

I'd have been v surprised if they didn't have people round tbh. 'Invaded' seems a v strong word to use. So long as nothing is missing/damaged and they don't appear to ahve all got drunk/been sick in the plant pots etc, it seems like you've escaped quite lightly!

We're leaving our two for the first time soon - agh. :)

' it's annoying to know our home has been invaded'

But it's their home too, isn't it?

I'd tell them to make a better job of clearing up next time.

You are right, it is their home too, which is why I'm on here trying to get some perspective, rather than rant at them.

Haha, not looked in the plant pots!!!!!!!

Have a look on facebook for stories of drinking games and people puking it sounds like they had a few mates over and the house is still standing would I say probably not

Ours always have a gathering when we go away - it's tradition apparently. My neighbours say ds always comes round to tell them in advance. The house is always cleaner than when I left it - which is a result in my book!

I have looked for "evidence" on Facebook, but can find none, and I'd smell if someone had been unwell in the house. Well a cleaner house is great Owooenbled, but I doubt that would happen haha!

I know it's their home too but as the people who pay for and take all the responsibility for the home, should the parents not deserve to have their wishes respected?

Sounds like a bit of a communication issue, I think it's probably a bit unreasonable to never allow friends round while you're out etc. but I think being lied to would be an issue for me.