How do you control Internet access on gadgets?

[TallulahTwinkle]

My ds (14) has an iPod touch and his mobile.

I am happy with Internet control on our main pc but concerned about the other two.

Also, as it's been the holidays I've let him keep them in his room overnight but he looks exhausted and I think he's Been up till all hours on facebook etc.

I am going to tell him no technology in bedroom after a certain time. Does 9.30 pm sound reasonable?

He is our eldest and I am torn between offering more freedom and laying down rules. Trying to find a happy compromise :)

It's harder with the eldest. You have to practice on them! When the younger DCs reach 14 you will feel more sure of your ground. I have a 16 and 14 year old DS.
At 14 I'd allow more freedom in school holidays and weekends but strict deadlines on school nights. Is he getting up early or sleeping late in the morning?
DS2 is just getting to that teenage phase where they are wide awake at night and zombie like in the morning. He has access to his gadgets after I have gone to bed and is getting very bleary eyed. Unless we have to be somewhere next day I'm turning a blind eye for now. I plan to bring him back to decent bedtimes in the week before they go back to school.

Thanks for replying.

Well, he is currently bleary in the mornings, surfacing at 11, which I don't mind, but I am imagining him in 2 weeks when back at school!

So, do you also plan on removing gadgets when back at school?

Yes I will make him leave phone and iPod downstairs as I've caught him several times on FB after lights out.
You could turn off the wi-fi but then the rest of the household are offline as well. I expect him to be in bed with lights out by about 9.45 on school nights and at weekends he can go when he wants.

Thanks, I don't feel as if I'm being unreasonable now.

It is hard with the eldest, especially with things we have no teenage experience of like Facebook etc!