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Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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everyone on holiday and im left at home adositting teen

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spoonmaker · 19/08/2012 17:35

All my family is away on holiday. My 16 yr old DS refused to go this time ... he has made the last two family holidays a living hell. I don't trust him to leave him on his own so I've stayed to keep an eye on him and he's not even around ! I'm trying to get into the strangeness of having the house to myself and noone to look after. I've often fantasised about how lovely this would be but find I am missing my other kids and DH and sad at missing out on holidaying with them. Life is usually so busy and full i'm a bit lost in this solitude. Any ideas to distract me and help me make the most of this time ??

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lisad123 · 19/08/2012 17:37

Everything you can never do when they are there. Eat food they hate, drink, sleep in ect.

wigglybeezer · 19/08/2012 19:59

My inlaws had internal locks put on all the doors of their house so that they could leave BIL at home when they went on holiday, he only ad access to his bedroom/ bathroom and the kitchen when they were away ( nice lad but with some dodgy friends who would take advantage). Could you try that?

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spoonmaker · 19/08/2012 20:22

Thats a good idea Wigglybeezer, I could try that the next time. Its true that its more a case of not trusting his friends than my son. He seems to have no means of controlling them. They can create mayhem in just a day and i'm sure they would all move in as soon as I left!

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wigglybeezer · 19/08/2012 20:25

I think it had the bonus effect of lowering their house insurance premiums too.

PS. now that he is a proper grown-up he has been known to go on holiday with his parents (bringing his DC's too).

Gumby · 19/08/2012 20:28

Watch boxsets of series you've always wanted to watch
Have lunch with friends
Go swimming on your own, out for coffee, to the cinema
Sleep
Spring clean the house
De clutter the kids rooms
That's what I'd do Grin

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spoonmaker · 19/08/2012 20:44

I've already cleaned the house and binned a lot of junk from the kids rooms. Makes me realise how much can be achieved without the distraction of little people. What a luxury it is to let go of all the routines, maybe a holiday home alone is not so bad after all ....Oh I spoke too soon... a hoard of teens on noisy scooters have just arrived !

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mumeeee · 20/08/2012 10:58

Could you have aranged for him to stay with friends or relatins, Sorry I know that's too late lat now unless you can arrange it for the last few days and then somehow go and join the res of the family, But if you can't do that could tyou arange to visit your friends for shopping/lunch/coffe e or just a nice catch up.
I'm always a bit surprised when people say their 16 year old refused to come on holiday. Our DDs didn't get the option at that age they had to come with us. Yes I know 16 is almost an adult and some people will say I was living on my own at 16, But an under 18 is still known as a minor and if they are still live at home they follow parents rules,

MrsRobertDuvallHasRosacea · 20/08/2012 11:27

But what is the poin t of spending a fortune on a holiday that someone does not want to go on and will make it miserable for everyone else?

Dd has severe anxieties and holidays en famille are a nightmare...this year we are having separate ones and life is so much better.

songline · 20/08/2012 11:36

My 16 year old can be seriously unpleasant on holiday and ruins it for everyone. Its a difficult age beacause they are too young to leave alone but too old to want to join in familly things

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