Any advice?

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Not been having a very good few days with my son. He is nearly 15 I am a single Mum. It just seems over everything or just normal disagreements. He said yesterday that he wanted to go into care or live with his mate not far away. I was really hurt. He lost his temper with me for the first time, it was quite scary. I went to work in the evening and he called my Mum telling her what had happened and that there are people at school who are depressed and he thinks he feels worse than them. Just said he wants to go.
My Mum taken him for the day but not before having a go at me. I dont know what to do guys. I told him I dont think Social services would be interested in taken him into care because I took his Blackberry away. Trying to find a joke in it but too easy just now. What would you do?

What are the agruments/disagreements over?

The fact that he has called your mum and gone with her for the day is a good sign that he is willing to talk about how he feels and suggests that he has a good relationship with her.

hi awbless, It was over that he said that he was going to be doing volunteer work a day at the weekends over the hoildays. Something that he really wanted to do at a play club that he has been going to. Not something I arranged. Just I work around 30 hours various shifts a week. He hasn't been though and also has left scooter there around 5 weeks ago. Now says he doesnt want to do it. But wanted money for cricket. I already pay for football training and when he was told this he lost it with me.
I was quite beside myself this morning and have talked to parentline. After lots of talking we kind of worked out that maybe he is finding it draining the emotional support for another that he is being put under with his girlfriend. also that I have concerns around unprotected sex while I am at work, so was adviced to hand over the protection lol. They adviced to take him to the doctor re his mood changes and feeling so down. So am feeling some what sane again hopefully can remain that way later when my parents return him.

Oh it's so hard sometime Re mood swings :( I think it gets worse during summer hols tbh . My ds is 13 going on 30 full of attitude .
try remain calm when he returns and ask your mum to wait until you are alone with her before she says anything to you about the argument . Don't let her run your parenting down in front of your Ds . My mum has done this on me several times in the past until i explained how unhelpful it is as ds used this against me .
Remember , grandparents only see him for a few hours each week or so but you have him 24/7 , so they don't see the whole picture .

I know the mood swings are really something. i just thought they were normal teenager hormornes. Never heard him talking of being depressed though.

Thanks for the advice re my Mum. I wont get into it with her in front of ds. x

Regarding him feeling depressed , take him to your doctor A.S.A.P - even if it's just for a chat . i had to do this last year when my Ds threatened suicide because he was being bullied :( Never take any chances , it might be just a cry for attention but take him seriously . xx

Yes I am going to get him appointment at the doctors. He was bullied 18 months ago moved him to another school which he loves but maybe it has left some underlying issues that need to be looked at. Thanks for the chat today Elmofan you have been really supportive x

Good luck Happy :) Hope you and your ds have a nice evening tonight x
The thing i try to remember the most is although ds is growing up , he's still my boy and i still tell him i love him every night when he goes to bed , he throws his eyes up at me but smiles all the same They are still kids .

If you ever need a chat just PM me any time xx

Thanks Just thought I would update you that he seen the doctor today and they said it is normal how he is feeling. Just for him to keep a dairy about how he feels and when ect to try and help him. phhhhheeeeewwwwwwwww lol

Thanks for the update :) Glad he's ok . The diary is a good idea :)