Tonight's showdown has been the culmination of weeks/months of typical teenage attitude, brought to a head today when DS's friend told me that the other day, when they were in the car, DS opened the car door as they were driving along. (DS friend driving, not DS). They are both 17, and the friend passed his test last week. Friend stopped the car and had a go at him.
When I confronted DS about it, he claimed it was funny. Apparently he does it all the time when he is in the car with his dad (ex H), and dad thinks it's funny.
Two months ago, another friend was involved in a car accident, (having just also passed his test), and as a result, there was a fatality.
It is beyond me why anyone would think that opening a car door while someone is driving could be construed as 'funny'.
I went mad and grounded him. Lots of other usual teenage crap such as lazy, disrespectful etc..
Further to this, I have just split up with my second husband (have DD with him) and moved out last week. Second husband and I on good terms, but he has now had enough and has washed his hands of him (been together since DS was 18 months).
Have I overreacted? Should I have let it go? Is it a reaction to the split?
The crazy thing is, is that he is super clever and got great results today.
The thing that has hurt me beyond belief though, is that he knows how unloved and neglected I was as a kid, and told me that my mum sounded great because she never told me off . . . . (because she never cared about me to give me boundaries).
Feel like I've done everything wrong and am a truly terrible mum ..... Sorry so long