My DD (17) wants to marry her first boyfriend!!

[Sylvana]

She is seeing him for a year. He is 19, seems nice enough, treats her well. He didn't secure the college course he wanted last year (Art College) so he is taking this year 'off' to figure out what he wants to do and find a job to save for college next year. He seems very laid back about it all. This didn't really concern me until I saw texts (on my phone) between the two of them discussing marriage!

He is her first boyfriend and I thought it would fizzle out after a few months. I want my DD to finish school, go to college, meet lots of new friends, have lots of relationships etc. I don't want her to settle down with the first boy she meets (like I did).

Should I say something ? Or just pretend I didn't see the texts and wait for things to fizzle out ?

nicki so sorry for your loss. My mum.and dad were together 12 years, my dad also died from cancer, 23years ago come October 31st and my mum hasn't been with anyone since. She loves my dad even now. :-( my dad and mum were never even married, so it proves to love someone you don't have to marry them.

I married young, and it didn't work out, and one could call it a mistake: one could also call it the thing that taught me to be the person I am now, who I really like being. My second love, I waited twelve years to marry: we met when I was 21 and he was 20. I had two kids and an ex-husband. He lived at home with his parents. Nobody thought it would last. I think I'm gonna go give him a quick kiss. Cause he's the best: point being love is unexpected, teaches us to be different people and makes us more interesting. She will survive her choices, whatever they are! And don't betray your child's trust by reading personal things, it's not cool and makes you worry!

I married my first boyfriend. Met at 17. Engaged at 18. Married at 20. In September it will be our 16th Wedding anniversary.

My dSIL married my husbands brother. Also first boyfriend. Married at 19. They're still together too, 15 years on. 4 lovely kids.

My Dsis married at 20 (not first boyfriend) and something made me wonder whether she was doing the right thing. No idea why. They split 18 months later.