DS not growing - would appreciate hearing your own positive outcomes please.

[TapasGirl]

I am really worried about DS1 who is 13.5. He just doesn't appear to be growing in height or build. Most of his peers are huge and continue to grow but he is so small and slight and I am getting a bit obsessed (on the quiet of course!) that he isn't going to grow.

I am tall and hubbie is really tall although we do have smaller grandparents on both sides.

I would really appreciate anyone who has had the same worries at this age but their child does grow eventually.

He is extremely consious of this and I keep telling him he will have a growth spurt but he is getting impatient and I don't want him to have issues as he is moving further into his teens.

His voice hasn't broken yet not sure if this is relevant and don't think he has body hair.

Thanks.

my ds was about 5 2 at 15
he really started growing at about 16 / 17 and now has size 11 feet and overtook me in height a few months ago
i am 5 8 so he must be about 5 11 now and still growing at 18

My son was 3-4 inches smaller than me 4 years ago, aged 12 so just around 5 ft now he is 5 inches taller than me and has size 10 feet. He didn't start growing until Year 9 and hasn't stopped.

I had the same anxiety made worse because DS1 hit puberty at 11 and was 6' by 13.
DS2 on the other hand showed no sign of puberty at 14 and I was worried. Not easy to suggest a visit to the doctors to a self concious teenager. I had however observed DS1's friends and most of them shot up in Year 9.
To my relief at 14.5 he is now well on the way, in fact he seems to have grown 6" in these holidays. We just bought his new school boats size 12.

Reassuring thread - ds is nigh on 13 and showing no signs of puberty, other than grumpiness and a slight moob issue. I found him playing cars with his brother the other day under my bed.... - and yet his friends are smelly and voice breaking and muscles in new places (they all swim). Its amazing how their body shape completely changes into that manly triangle. DS is still a roly-poly puppy with size 5 feet. He is a bit of dead weight when he climbs onto my lap for a cuddle, so I think I have a slow grower on my hands!

I have heard that the later they start their growth spurt, the bigger they are going to get. He is projected to be 6 foot plus.

This did happen to my brother, who grew big feet and a big nose....I went away to college when we were the same height (he was 15) came home for summer and he had grown 5 inches in a year. He added another 6 inches over the next 2 years or so, and is now 6ft4

DH was also a slow grower and is just under 6ft, and the smallest in his extended family.

I dread that growth spurt because I cannot fill the roly-poly one now, I shall have to take out a second mortgage to feed him!

Op, as he is thin there is prob not much to worry about.

But, I took Ds to Dr just past his 14th birthday, having asked him before that whether he wanted to go and when the answer was yes, we went.

Dr immensely understanding, as I knew he would be, he sees lots if worried young men . Asks questions and does an examination. Would refer if necessary.

Suggest next time he raises it, you suggest going to Dr to put his fears at rest.

That said, most of the men in DM's family grow 6-8" at about 15 or 16. And very painful it is too.

I do love Mnet.

Thanks for all your positive responses which give me lots of hope for growth spurt and breaking of voice etc.
I have booked a double appointment as DS1 needs to see Doctor about something non related to puberty onset.

I have decided that before DS' appointment I am going to go in to see Dr alone and discuss my concerns about DS as I really don't want him (DS) to think I'm worried about this. Then when Dr sees DS about other issue he can assess him without highlighting any concerns.

Is this ok? Am I being a bit too devious? Just don't want DS to worry himself if it is not necessary.

Not at all. I used to email the consultant the day before we went - any consultant, we've seen loads - so they knew what my concerns were, had an agenda, a report on what had happened and could maximize the time. I quite often said that I did not want discussion of x in front of Ds. The consultants were pathetically grateful as it was an efficient way of proceeding.

i am outside of too many vinos to read all the replies, but my advice would be to buy new shoes....every time my ds gets new shoes he has a growth spurt. i swear he has grown an inch a week this summer holidays.

I always said ds2 would never be as tall as ds1 who shot up to six foot at about age 14.....ds2 is 15 in november and only seems to grow over the summer holidays....he is suddenly sixfoot tall....and he definitely wasn't six foot tall six weeks ago.