Am I on the home straight?

[MrsJonesisright]

Have given dd an absolute "no" to 2 requests this week, which after a couple of "but why nots", she (appears to have) accepted. I so want to believe we're moving on from endless whinging and/or blanking me for days when she can't have her own way, but feel almost afraid to relax into it.

I feel like I've almost been conditioned over the last 5 years (she's 17 now) to expect unpleasantness - help me to accept and appreciate please!

Depends why you said no really.

compromise is the key to teenagers

Buying something online for her friend because friend's mum won't, and a house party. Did the house party for her 16th - went off ok, but I'm an anxious sort and don't want the worry again! I think these 2 outright refusals take the total to about 4 since she's been a teen!

The not getting her own way hasn't had to have anything to do with me - friends, boyfriends, other relatives, school, doctors, riding instructor, horse, wrong clothes, shoes, make-up - anything that hasn't gone right has been my fault!

They do become human again

I hope so. It's just a (very, very long) phase............

Sounds like you are glimpsing the light at the end of the tunnel there
17 was when my lot all started to reemerge as human again...:D

17 medusa? Oh that's so encouraging.
My DD is so stubborn and has completely ridiculous ideas sometimes. She just won't consider any other point of view.......
Oooooh 17 eh!
Really hopeful now :o
OP your DD sounds just like mine.

Oh, yes - it really is getting better! Potential meltdown situation yesterday (riding related). Having told me to just go away (fair enough), she later said she knew what she'd done wrong and was she was quite chatty and smiley by bedtime!

How long to go for you chocoluvva?!!

DD is nearly 16.
DS is 13.
In her defence, she doesn't really do the tantrum thing it's more that you can tell her nothing and she's a drama queen. Common words are hate, disgusting, impossible, pointless, such a fail.
Many things are my fault.
I am unreasonable most of the time!
She will cut of her nose to spite her face.
Her boyfriend is an utterly charming young man who adores her

Don't want to wory you but DD2 was 19 and in her first year at5 uni before she started to become human again.

I guess they're all different!

Chocoluvva - I recognise all of that! At least the ridiculous ideas give you a laugh. I tended to respond to those very matter of factly - DD once told me she and some friends were going to pitch a tent overnight on local cricket club grounds. I said "I think you'll find that that's tresspass, darling". They didn't go.