My ds is turning 18 in a few weeks. As both myself and my ex know teenagers drink and will do behind our backs if you say no, we decided to allow our son to go out with mates, drink sensibly, always let us know where he is going, keep his phone on, walk away from trouble etc etc.
Last weekend he went to a 18th birthday party in our town centre and when he came out some lads started fighting with his mate. He tried to help get his mate away, was not physical with anyone and when the police came they asked him to step back three times and eventually he was arrested for being drunk and disorderly. Obviously we are mortified, he's realised he's been stupid and has accepted a £80 fine rather than going to court and now he has been fingerprinted.
This has been quite upsetting but what I can't understand is that when he was put in the police van he asked could someone be informed of his whereabouts and was told it'd be sorted at police station. He was taken into custody at 3am, where he asked several times could his dad be informed so that he wouldn't be worried where he was, his phone was taken and he was informed that it was being switched off, he asked again about his dad being informed. At 0530 he was was woken for a medical due to him being drunk and he asked the medical person (twice) had anyone spoken to his dad and was told they didn't know.
Ds was allowed a phone call at 0859 to tell his dad to come and pick him up, first he knew about where he was, thought he'd gone and stayed at his mates. Had he been coming home to mine I would have been sat up all night frantic. When I spoke to the police they said his rights were denied due to intoxication?? No mention of of this in PACE policy, only everyone has a right to have someone informed of their whereabouts, even if they're not allowed a phone call themselves.
Just wanted to know how other mums would feel about this??