My husband and our 2nd daughter - 14 - are constantly at loggerheads, which hugely upsets me and is caussing problems between myself and husband.
He thinks she is a manipulative little madam who knows exactly how to treat me to get her own way, but I know this is not the case at all. As a teacher I know and see a large amount of tenagers and dd is SO not like all of these. Yes, she has always been quite feisty, but also has a loving side, although this is not in evidence where my husbnd is concerned, but I'm sure this is because he is always so judgmental of her. She has a lot of lovely friends and only sees them either at school or when we can drive her as we live in the country. She is always reliable about picking up time, and is hugely generous to her friends, both with time and money. She does have a negative attitude when we (well, dh) organise things, and tends to ask ' oh but why' a lot, but if we remain calm she usually gets it in the end, but dh freaks out way before this and of course I then intervene and try to keep the piece, but end up arguing with dh as I actually mostly think he is wrong. As a man, he of course is right though (!). Aaargghh - don't know what to do as am beginning to hat dh for the way he treats her. JUst be interested in other people's thoughts