husband and son arguing

[beetlegirl]

My son is 19 and back from uni. Since the age of 15 he and my husband have had loud, nasty rows and I'm stuck in the middle. My husband expects me to take his side but I don't always agree with him. My son presents more lucid and intelligent opinions in these arguments. I tell myself that my husband is being insecure - product of a broken marriage, intelligent and capable of going to uni bit didn't. (I did). I hate all these hostilities. Do I have to put up with it for much longer? Will they grow out of it?!

I think you should try and step out of their arguments and let them get on with it.

I found the older my ds became the more he had his own views. and ideas which weren't necessarily the same as his df's.

Neither one of them are right they are different people who should be grown up enough to agree to disagree about things.

And its really not fair to drag you into their arguments and expect you to take sides..

You need to tell them its their argument/discussion that they are both adults and to not involve you.
Hope this helps as this is what I had to do with my ds and exh as they were both driving me mad!!!!

I remember my db and Dad getting like this when db was about the same age or even a bit younger. It felt as if my Dad was trying to prove he was still the Alpha Male and resisting the younger upstart from having too much say. In the end db moved out as the atmosphere became unbearable, they then became friends again once they weren't in each other's pockets. Other than telling them how much the rows are getting you down they both need to learn to bite their tongue's. Is your ds working whilst at home?