HI, my almost 15 year old dd asked yesterday evening if she could have her belly button pierced next week once she gets school holidays. She was willing to discuss not rant and rave and I promised to sit and listen waiting until she had finished before saying anything. Her main point was that although 15, she is VERY small for her age, and has had to wait for a long time before being able to wear cool clothes that all her friends would have had for years, can now only get shoes that are not babyish, as her feet are so small, is teased constantly about her height being called 'midget' on and off all the time, although may I add she is usually able to give as good back, but sometimes it does get her down and becomes a bit much. This is not an individual person, just random idiots at school or on the bus. Her 12 year old sister is much taller, and although it took her a while, she is over this fact. This is something she can get that is not 'sizeist'. She realises that she needs consent, and regardless of this I feel she would not do it behind my back.
She says that she looked after her ear piercings herself which she honestly did. She has studied hard for her GSCE modules last month. She doesn't go out every weekend meeting friends, or cause any hassle. She, like most teenagers, can be grumpy and mouthy sometimes, and her bedroom looks like a bomb has gone off in there.
I said that I would try and find some info and speak to dh, who immediately said 'no' to me before hearing her points, but listened and said we will discuss.
I read that it takes up to a year to heal, which really surprised me, and that swimming is not recommended due to infection. She said about putting a plaster over it and tested this theory out, which obviously failed, but at least she could see it for herself. We are due to go to France for 2 weeks which will involve swimming etc.
Has anyone had a similar situation, or any advice to give me.