hi I am having problems adjusting to my kids growing up, they drive me up the wall when they are around but I miss them when they're not around. My oldest daughter (22) moved in with her boyfriend a month ago and I didn't think I would miss her, as she was hardly around much, but I do miss her and she never seems to have time to talk to me anymore. My 18yr old I clash with head on, she will not tidy her room and she stays over at her boyfriends on a regular basis, I have paid for driving lessons for almost a year but she can't take her test until she passes her theory, which I have paid for twice and she has failed, she has now stumped up for it herself but is doing no revision, if I say anything she explodes or accuses me of nagging, I am also the worst mother in the world because I will not be buying her a car when she passes her test, like all her other friends got. She keeps threatening to move out and live with her boyfriend and then changes her mind at the last minute, I feel guilty sometimes for thinking please do!!!!!!, but worrying myself to death that she actually will I work fulltime 12 hour shifts and sometimes I resent my lovely children when they get out of bed at midday and expect me to make their lunch. At the moment I feel a complete faliure as a parent, we all used to get on so well and have such nice times but now the house is not the same even the cats dont like me, my dog is the only thing thats ever pleased to see me. Will it be like this forever. I am constantly tired and just long for a peaceful tidy house. Sorry for moaning