Son arrested for burglary

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Hi I am sick with worry the police knocked at four in the morning to say that have arresested my 16 year old for burglary he was with an older boy and a lawn mower was chucked in the hedge and him and his friend was hiding there. He has never been in trouble before I have never been in a police station what will happen today I can't stop shakeing. Can anyone help? They searched his room and out buildings and found nothing.

By the time you read this, the worst bit will be over. Hope you're OK :)

Just checking in to see how you are, hope it's all going ok. Still hand holding.

I am now finally home. A big thank you for your support I had a really nice solicitor it seems like they saw the lawn mower laying at the side of the road and very stupidly went to pick it up. They are sending forensics of to see if they broke into the garden My. Son insists thy won't find anything but time will tell.

He has been bailed and they have put a curfew on him and he can't see the other boy.

Still feel like a shit parent but my son us very subdued which I am glad about.

Greenbed you are not a shit parent you are a caring parent, who cares enough to help her son, hopefully the shock is enough :)

Thanks I am still wondering where I went wrong.

So your son is saying he wasn't involved in the burglary at all, he and his friends just found the lawnmower in the street - is that right?
Do you get a feeling about whether or not he's telling the truth?

And you haven't 'gone wrong'... If he's telling the truth, he hasn't done anything wrong... And if he's lying, well, he's old enough to be making his own mistakes

Greenbed

What's the final outcome?

He go tbailed and has to go back in a month after all the DNA tests have been done to see if they charge him or not.

Greenbed - hope things are looking up. And that you've stopped feeling like a 'shit parent'. You are anything but.

Thanks welsh he has a job interview tomorrow he has to bein at ten every night or the police will arrest him. Which he does. when he turned sixteen he would not come in for me at any time so it's nice to go to bed knowing he is in his bed Think he is finding it hard leaving parties early etc which is good.

Fingers crossed this is a one of as this has been the worst week ever.

Will be crossing my fingers, too, for your and DS.
I hope you're being supported by the police - and that their approach is constructive.
Good luck to ds for the job interview -

The police were horrible to me when I went to the police station, in what way could they support me? I would love some advice on this I really would.

they shouldn't be, they should understand, or at least try to, what a hard time you are having. The duty sergeant worth talking to - or contact police hq. I once sent my police authority customer services (got details from their website) an email and, lo and behold, some action taken.

they absolutely shouldn't be horrible to you.

Maybe it would have been different if they had actually charged him. I suppose they can't really do anything it's my problem. Last week was the first time I had even been in a police station.

I'm sorry to hear the police were horrible to you. I had one really horrible woman on the phone once, and another slightly horrible one on Fri night/Saturday morn, but all the others I've come into contact with (another dozen or so) have been OK-to-great. You are in such a vulnerable position as the parent of an arrested teen: it really, really doesn't help if you have to deal with unhelpful or rude or judgemental police too.

Never mind would rather deal with unhelpful rude police than deal with my son. They are the least of my problems. Wouldn't worry about the gossip people will soon realise it wasn't him.

Sorry should have put the last sentence on your thread.