A book for teen girls on dealing with a queen bee - any suggestions?

[JoannaFight]

Have looked at Queen Bees and Wannabees but it seems to be more for parents. I want something that is aimed more at 13/14 yr olds.

Dd has a friend who could be described as rather a Queen Bee. Dd does like her and yet isn't always being treated so well in that subtle can't quite put your finger on it way that teen girls specialise in.

This is not bullying btw, more a feeling that the friendship is unbalanced and dd feels she's being used. I've encouraged her to be less available but it's difficult when they have mutual friends.

The film Mean Girls is based on Queen Bees and Wannabes. My dd and her friends love it and are always quoting.

Aha.. ok many thanks will check that out!

Bumping today. Anyone else?

'Stick up for Yourself: Every Kid's Guide to Personal Power and Positive Self Esteem' by Gershen Kaufman is a good one -- though not specifically treating girl drama, it does give a teen some ideas about asserting herself that are universally applicable.

'A Smart Girl's Guide to Liking Herself, even on the Bad Days' by Laurie Zelinger is another with a focus on how to put yourself at the centre of your life and not bother so much with the way you are seen by others, so personal empowerment again.

Thank you math I really appreciate your suggestions. I'll have a look for those. I think dd just needs strategies to remain friends without being expected to massage Queen Bee's ego as it's grating a little these days.

Sometimes it is good for a girl to know when to cut her losses, and how, and how to protect herself afterwards, because you can't always get away without fallout.

My 14 year old daughter has read QB & W at my suggestion after we'd discussed girl group friendships several times. She found it most enlightening, not in relation to the habits of the Queen Bee as such, but as to how other members of the group behave. So, not to suggest that there aren't other books that are useful, but don't be too quick to dismiss the idea of giving QB & W to your daughter for some browsing.