Hi All,
This is my first post, my daughter turned 13 last month and she is develoing very quickly into a young lady, I am biased as most parents, but she is an attractive girl and at 13 is already 5ft 7 with a size 6 figure and is getting lots of attention from boys.
She has never showed much of an interest but recently she has become friendly with an older boy (i think he is 15/16) she insists they are just friends and he has a girlfriend who she is also friends with.
It is obvious that she fancies this boy, she is always talking about him and messaging him, I have tried to give her some guidance and explained that she needs to be careful as his girlfriend may get the wong idea, etc.
She rarely goes out and if anything, we do try and encourage her to socialise, she is a confident girl with lots of friends. Tonight she asked if she could go out tomorrow and i agreed, she then said this boy had asked her to 'play out' i joked that he was a bit old to play out and asked who else was out and she said no-one. I suggested that i would feel better if one of her friends was with her, that way no-one can misread any situations or get the wrong idea.
Her response was that she just wouldn't go out, she is at her dad's at the moment so i may have mis read the messages but it was a bit of a teenage strop, i triend to explain and she said it was fine and she understands why, but i said i would talk to her tomorrow when she is home.
What is the best approach, she was honest about who she was going to be with and i have thanked her for that as she is very open with me and i do trust her and want her to continue to be honest with me, but i don't know this boy, he is 15/16 and i'm concerned about his intentions.
She is in full blown puberty and is having the typical teenage mood swings (although to be fair i think i've got of lightly-so far!) I have a great relationship with my daughter, but know i need to have some difficult conversations with her.
Any advice on the best approach, what to say and what not to say??
Thanks (and sorry for the long message!)
x