So, my son went into care as his relationship with Dad broke down, and we were all convinced his Dad was this horrid person who was making things up about our son. It turns out this isn't the case. I had been working towards having my son come to live with me, until I found private messages on facebook confirming what Dad has been saying for a few years. Our son was arrested a few months ago for stealing, he showed no remorse, he has been excluded a number of times, but this seems pretty tame compared to what he is up to now. These messages reveal that our son is organising stealing trips, is selling drugs as well as taking them. Now I have raised these points to SS and thier attitude astounds me. They say we shouldn't be too harsh with him, and that he should come and live with me anyway. I've said that our son needs to admit these things, otherwise the move will fail and I will have no support. I have no immediate family, I suffer with severe depression and I feel like SS are bullying me into taking him, when I know I won't cope. That aside he currently lives in a small town, and is clearly involved in a gang, my other concerns is that if he comes to London, he will end up being another statistic, I really don't know what to do. SS say his placement has to come to an end in July, regardless of these concerns. I feel so worthless because I can't help, Dad and new partner are reluctent to have him because they are in fear of what he may do, our son has before attacked Dad, and will stop at no ends if he doesn't get what he wants. I just don't know what to do, I feel like he would be better off in care, at least to some extent they can control what he does, but it seems no one can get through to him. He doesn't think he has a problem, has a terrible anger problem and to be honest im scared of my own son, and what he may do. He doesn't know that we all know and SS are going to tell him about the content and 'talk' to him, but I don't think this will help. I don't mean to be so down on him, but how much more can I take? Any advice would be appreciated!