being picked on...

[fridayfreedom]

how do I support DC13 who is having yet more trouble with peers picking on him on a regular basis? has had more serious incidents in the past mainly on the school bus which the school dealt with.
Now it's poking , grabbing his bag, jokes at his expense, pushing him. Nothing serious but getting him down.
He's a bit geeky and doesn't have any really close friends at school and the one he did have is now leading the picking on him.
He has a regular hooby which he excells at so has friends at those clubs. It's just that school is hard when this happens daily. Oh and the little shit doing it tonight parent's are friends of ours but not close friends.

I am really sorry to hear that your DS is suffering this. Its awful when school is ruined for a child by insensitive bullies. Do you think the school can do more to help, is it worth speaking to the head?
Is his ex-friend trying to impress someone else by picking on your DS?
Do his friends from the clubs go to his school?

Sorry that was all questions and no answers.....I have been through this with my DS10 and having tried everything to make it work - believe me we tried everything, we ended up moving him to a very different school where he is very happy now.

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I hope you can work something out for him as it just isn't fair that he should be treated like this.

thanks for posting.
School were helpful re the serious stuff, mind you I was in there at 8am!!
Think ex friend is trying to impress as he's a bit of an attention seeker.
One of his clubs has kids from school but older ones ...and also a bit geeky, plus coaches wouldn't stand for any crap! other club is a national one so kids from all over, gets on well with them through shared interest.
Have been speaking to DH about him speaking to the kid who's parents we know, then it doesn't look like ' mummy's boy'

would speak to parents, not kid!!

Don't want to put you off but be careful, wrong though it is, often if a kid gets in trouble for doing something wrong it doesn't change their behaviour just turns them against the one who got them in trouble IYSWIM
Is there more the school can do?
Is moving schools an option?

situation not bad enough to move schools, plus that would cause huge problems with buses etc.
I spoke to the school today, spoke to his head of house . She was very hepful and reassuring and said she'd speak to him at the start of next term, She said she'd say teachers had noticed problems not his parents rang to complain when she speaks to the boys concerned. Have asked that he is moved away from them in class.
Will see what she says when she's spoken to DS.
I understand what you are saying re might make it worse but in the past it generally goes away until we remind the little shits that we are on their case!!!