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my son is visiting an orphanage in south africa

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stephrick · 31/05/2012 20:26

He is 18 and leaves on Sunday with 4 friends on a 2 week working trip, they are visiting an orphanage and needs to takes gifts, this has been sprung on me, any ideas apart from pens, crayons etc, I was once good at these things, for santa shoebox, should I go the same route. I do not want it to seem patronising in any way.

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celebmum · 31/05/2012 20:29

Jigsaws, bouncy balls/bats & balls, marbles?

I'm Thinking along the lines of things that can be enjoyed by more than one child at a time? Smile

TheOneWithTheCrown · 31/05/2012 20:32

When dd's school does this they always ask for flannels, pencils, note pads, little balls, hair bobbles and even back packs. If you go to your local pound shop you should be able to get most of those. The also ask for unopened soap.

IvanaNap · 31/05/2012 20:33

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Tabliope · 31/05/2012 20:34

What about a good football that can be packed flat and blown up when there? Toy cars? Skipping rope?

stephrick · 31/05/2012 20:34

thats a great idea, bouncy balls will be in the suitcase

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stephrick · 31/05/2012 20:35

OMG I'm writing these all down

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ThreadWatcher · 31/05/2012 20:36

Twister mat and spinner
snakes and ladders

Tabliope · 31/05/2012 20:38

What about sweets as well like lollies, you can get a big bag quite cheaply. Hope he has a great time.

IvanaNap · 31/05/2012 20:42

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timetosmile · 31/05/2012 20:43

Any kind of robust ball e.g. tennis, small light football, if space allows, they are MAD for football there.

And cars and trucks, epsecially dumper trucks or things with rugged wheels if its a rural area because it will be sandy and rocky all around.

Robust plastic plates and mugs, preferably with different patterns, so they can be their 'own'

Toothbrushes and toothpaste, the more the merrier.

Rag dolls or strong plastic dolls, skipping ropes.

I think jigsaws and marbles are a non starter (sorry celebmum) but the facilities are often so poor and the outside play space will be dirt/sand, and the pieces will be lost/eaten in no time.

When we lived there, and had quite a lot of contact with orphanages, the kids loved UNO (card game)a lot!!

Flip flops - light to pack, cheap in chainstores/pound shop in a variety of sizes..sizing not too important with flip-flops......theirs are probably worn through or non existant.

These kids are likely to be extremely poor, any toy is likely to become communal and used until it wears out and then some to the more indestructible the better.

Or maybe take some cash (are you and your friends feeling generous??) to buy school uniforms, which are relatively cheap (£5 for jumper, shirt, skirt) by our standards, but impossible for some to afford. If they're not in uniform, often they're not allowed to attend High School.
We knew of a family with three sons and one school shirt, where they each had the shirt for a day at a time could only go to school in rotation Sad

Wow! I hope he has an amazing time.

IvanaNap · 31/05/2012 20:44

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stephrick · 31/05/2012 20:44

He's getting nervous now, but been saving up all his ema for this trip, don't want to get all politics but has been working hard, and has secured a job when he gets back, at an animal park, this trip will give him the most eye opener, though he is joking that he might stay

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CanYouWhistle · 31/05/2012 20:45

balloons!

IvanaNap · 31/05/2012 20:57

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stephrick · 31/05/2012 20:57

Well he would have to buy the school uniforms whilst there, he has been saving. could he make a pledge to buy more when he gets back to the uk. I don't know the name of the orphanage until he gets back, like all teenagers one call when he gets there and one for a lift from the airport, but when I know can we have a sponser site?

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stephrick · 31/05/2012 20:58

balloons going on the list thankyou

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stephrick · 31/05/2012 20:58

Do you think the gruffalo

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TheHouseOnTheCorner · 31/05/2012 21:02

stickers and notebooks?

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agendabender · 31/05/2012 21:05

a friend of mine did this after uni and as soon as she got there she asked us to send all of the toothbrushes we could lay our hands on. The children had never seen one. I guess toothpaste might also be a good idea!

PuffPants · 31/05/2012 21:05

Sad though, isn't it? I mean there are some very wealthy people in SA. Shame they don't look after their own...

Your DS sounds lovely.

thisthreadwilloutme · 31/05/2012 21:06

Contact your local football team, my friend took out 30 full strips, the kids loved it.

Also pencils, pens, soap, toothbrush. Union Jack - there are loads about for the jubilee.

Your son sounds lovely.

stephrick · 31/05/2012 21:16

gonna contact Bristol rovers

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WWYB · 31/05/2012 21:17

I did that twice when I was a teenager, once in 6th form and once 1st year in Uni. The second time I only packed 2 pairs of shorts and 5 t-shirts and underwear in handluggage, the rest of all my luggage allowance was toys. Don't worry about looking patronising, they will be extremely grateful.

I took:
Cuddly toys - smallish ones with no choke-able bits so suitable for all ages
Pads of paper and packs of pens and pencils and crayons - as many as you can fit in basically
Pencil sharpeners
Baby board books - they last so well for the little ones
Hair clips and bobbles - the multipacks they sell in poundland, again loads
Dinky cars/trucks
Toothbrushes and paste - multipack poundland
Bars of soap - multipack poundland
Playing cards - esp the plastic ones that don't rip
Snap cards
Plimsolls in a few sizes - so many of them had such awful shoes that were falling apart

Will try to thinkof more suggestions for you. He will have a great time.

WWYB · 31/05/2012 21:24

Just remembered, I took a few multi packs of knickers and underpants in an assortment of sizes.

When I went in 6th form the school contacted a local supermarket (Tesco?) and they gave the school something like £100 worth of school uniform to take with them. Just basic white shirts/blouses and shorts/skirts. The supermarket got in the local rag for their donation.