12yo Wanting to Show Midriff

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I'm posting here as it seems to get more posts than pre-teens.

She's 12 going on 22 as they all are at that age I suppose, but came home from work today to find her in a cut off top baring about 8 inches of flesh round her middle.

I think she's too young to be going out wearing such revealing stuff, what do you lot think. Go on, tell me I'm an old fashioned prude.....

It's not just wearing a bikini - it's the whole thing. It turns out she knew boys from school were going to the pool yesterday and I knew she wanted to parade around in as little as possible in front of them. I think that is wrong at 12 years old. She hasn't even started puberty yet!

But why would you let a 12 year old go about in 'adult' clothes. Their minds aren't mature enough to deal with or understand the implications of what can happen or the the message being given across.

As for adults viewing a 12 year old as sexy. Get real. Don't let them dress provocatively to begin with and they won't be any adults viewing them as sexy. Otherwise plenty will.

I think that's a bit naive, people who find children sexually attractive don't need a reason; doesn't matter what the child wears.

I went around in a bikini when I was 5yo, I just don't see a bikini as "adult clothes".

Upper thighs: I suppose I was thinking of mini-skirts & short-shorts in fashion in 1970s. And for bra I guess I was really thinking revealing any of the breast.

8" is a lot of midriff, I suppose I forgot how low slung jeans are nowadays (stupid, stupid, stupid fashion trend; the only people who can carry it off ARE 12yo). Would be different if jeans came anywhere near the belly button.

I agree Adventures, I wasn't referring to the bikini, more the cropped top with low slung jeans and an 8" midriff. But I'm her mother and I thought she looked sexy, I was horrified, of course it matters what the child wears.

I doubt that at 5 years old you were aware of your body. My 12 yo is more than aware of her body, and what she can use it for to get attention. And sometimes bad attention is better than no attention at all.

As for being naive, maybe I am, but not so long back the local community had a meeting with a police officer - concerned, as it had come to light that we had a convicted paedophile living in our street ( still do ), and we wanted to know if he was on the radar. We were told that between our town and one 13 miles away there were 70 people on the sex offenders register. I'm being dramatic as I've no interest or concern about the local paedo, nor the 7 others living within half a mile, but I am concerned about DD2 thinking that she is gorgeous enough in the right clothes to be lusted after, and believe me the right clothes are so important to her.

My 14 year old DD doesn't do revelling clothes, but she can still look "sexy" because she has proper adult curves.

DD2 (11) does hot pants and knotted T shirts, but she simply looks like a fashion conscious little girl.

No doubt in 2or 3 years time she'll have curves too. But by then, hopefully, she'll understand there's a time and a place for revelling outfits. For now I'm happy to let her play.

Shes as stubborn as they come and clothes is not a battle I wish to fight unless I have to. (I may have two in Sept because the HT is in a massive, pointless huff about skirt length. If she bans skirts they will all turn up in skin tight black jeans. She normally has more sense. I'm not sure why she feels like joining battle. Too many daft MC parents who spend too much time forgetting that once they wore skin tight skirts, make up, smoked and drank.)

bloody hell those are some levley names you have for young women, including yoru daughter.

secondly it is as naive to think someone who is sexually attracted to children will only realise it when they see a child's tummy as it is to think short skirts cause rape.

levley= lovely

What custard said. Burn the fucker. Burn it.

Surely if someone's sexual fantasy is young children they will be at least as attractive if not more so looking like children???

12 is very young.
I would say ok if it is a crop top that only shows stomach when the arms are raised.
Any shorter and it's probably not ok.

HereIGo I think I love you. You have put it across exactly as I see it, only soooo much better