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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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17 yr old boy and noisy sex

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jans18 · 29/05/2012 19:46

My 17 yr old has discovered sex and his gf, 16, is enthusiastic and rather noisy. His room is such a mess he can't even shut the door properly and relies on the fact that you can't see the bed from the hallway. I'd like to get him to shut the door and keep the noise down so his younger brother does not have to wear headphones. Has anyone managed to have a conversation about this sort of thing? What on earth do I say? Do I tell just him, or both of them? I was thinking I'd just be straight and yell something like 'can you keep the noise down!' but I dont want to embarass them - or perhaps I should. Opinions very welcome!

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1950sHousewife · 30/05/2012 22:30

JobCar - oh blimey that is awful. Especially the juxtaposition of mundane peeling the spuds with the wild orgasmic orgy going on over their heads.

OP - I think you have your answer on how to solve this.

custardismyhamster · 31/05/2012 23:26

My ex still lived with his parents (I still do with mine) and a couple of years ago, aged 23, we came back to his from the pub. Cue drunken, noisy (not deliberately, too drunk to twig how loud i was being) proper bed squeaking, banging on wall etc.

His mum shouted 'will you two quieten down please' I died a little inside.

Hopefullyrecovering · 31/05/2012 23:34

But what are fields for exactly? And beaches, and convenient deserted places and cars? It is unimaginable that you are allowing your DS to let you know that he is having sex. He should be properly ashamed and furtive.

I fondly imagine that my parents still don't know that I have ever had sex. Despite the evidence in the form of two children.

jchocchip · 03/06/2012 09:43

My dd1 is 18.
She has been with her bf since she was 13. He doesn't often stay over, but when he did last weekend, I made the sofa bed up for him!

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jans18 · 03/10/2012 19:54

In the end I mentioned that I was buying his younger brother some very expensive new headphones as he was complaining about a lot of noise - that's all it took .

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PuffPants · 03/10/2012 19:56

Wow.

PuffPants · 03/10/2012 19:56

No words.

OnlyWantsOne · 03/10/2012 20:00

Bloody hell when I was 16 I wouldn't have dared to attempt to even go upstairs at my boyfriends house. Let alone fuck loudly.

Tell them both to keep it down. Bloody hell.

Chubfuddler · 03/10/2012 20:05

Christ. If my mother had heard me having sex when I was 17 my boyfriends feet wouldn't have touched the ground he'd have been out the door so fast. Door open? Little brother using ear protection to avoid sex sounds? massively disrespectful.

ishchel · 03/10/2012 20:06

Record it and playback to both of them? Audio equipment, even mobiles are pretty sensitive these days. For maximum embarrassment, in at the dinner table?

hifi · 03/10/2012 20:17

Teens watch so much porn now they think they have to howl.tell them to tone it down or ban em in your home.

ripsishere · 04/10/2012 02:30

Lots of good advice. I do think that your DS is being very disrespectful. I would have died had my parents heard me and DH shagging. We lived with them for three months too.

zeldapinwheel · 04/10/2012 04:52

Throw a bucket of cold water over them and when they protest say "oh, I'm sorry I thought there was some cats shagging in here"

CheerfulYank · 04/10/2012 05:13

Ugh! I would never have. I think I slept on the couch at my BF's even when we were ENGAGED.

seeker · 04/10/2012 06:54

Would you put up with this behaviour from a flatmate or a lodger? No, you wouldn't. So why put up with it from a member of your family.

MiniMonty · 05/10/2012 04:51

Old enough to have sex, old enough to have a no frills conversation about the manners that go with it. Tell it like it is: "Shut the door, oil the springs and don't remind me what I'm missing".

SomeTosser · 05/10/2012 05:37

After SMIL, a Very Good Christian Woman made pithy remarks about noise when I was 18 and dp about 21, we died inside and never shagged there again.

We went to mine instead. Sure, my room was so small the single bed took up most of the space, but my parents worked long hours and my brother was at boarding school.

SoggyMoggy · 05/10/2012 05:57

I used to have a flat mate who was a bit uh, noisy. I went with, "If you didn't bring enough to share with the rest of the class, keep it down!"

But uh, I don't guess that works in this case. ;)

Sparklingbrook · 05/10/2012 06:55

Looks at DS of 13. Is this what I have to look forward to?

YouSmegHead · 05/10/2012 07:01

Ditto anyfucker

KillerRack · 05/10/2012 09:17

I would never have done it with anyone in the house :O ...well during the day,

things have changed!

If my kids (long way off yet) do that I'll just go up shout 'It's not a brothel ' then carry on milling about.

Hopandaskip · 10/10/2012 15:12

I think I would pull DS aside and tell him "if I or anyone else can tell you are having sex in the house then you need to take it elsewhere, if I hear you again I will come up and find an excuse to interrupt."

bleaching brain at idea of my own DS having noisy sex in my house

GavinAmes · 05/11/2024 20:55

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LoyalMember · 07/11/2024 08:46

Lucky wee bugger, that's all I can say. Wish I was 17 again...😜

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