What do your teens do to help around the house?

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Just that really, we had a "discussion" this evening about what is reasonable to expect. Before I share what mine do/don't do, could you tell me what yours do (aged 15).

Thanks

Got a 17 year old left here, his sister is at uni.
Hoovers twice a week.
Washes up (no dishwasher) on alternate days.
Unpacks and stores all the shopping.
Keeps general house rules about tidiness and not leaving dirty stuff around, including in his room.
Does gardening things involving manly use of powered equipment.
There are probably other things that I'm not remembering, because he's always done them.
He gets £15 a week because he's at 6th form and needs to buy lunch and other bits, but he doesn't get paid extra for household jobs.

We have 2 teens and one nearly 13. We have strict rota for dishwasher but that's about it. It's expected that rooms are tidied when asked and other clearing tables, emptying compost is done when asked. But tbh, we still have to endlessly remind about the dishwasher.

I don't agree with payment unless the chores are numerous or time-consuming. I don't get paid for any of the housework, and in future life, neither will they. Also a big turn-off for any future partner.

I have a 15 yr old ds, a 13 yr old dd (and a 10 yr old dd, who doesn't seem to accept she's not a teen too)

They put away own clothes (left outside door), if they want anything ironed they would go and do it themselves.
They each cook tea once a week.
Whoever isn't cooking has to lay table, get everyone a drink.
They have to empty and load dishwasher between them, and if they are all in, I slip in an extra job like putting away stuff off the draining board or getting the stuff out the tumble drier.
If they don't keep their rooms relatively tidy, then no-one else is doing it for them (note carefully worded phrasing there )
If they happen to be about when I get in with shopping, etc., they would be expected to help ad hoc with bits like that.

ds and dd1 each have a 1 day a week paper round, delivering the free paper.

ds is being allowed to get away with quite a lot whilst he is in the middle of his GCSEs at the moment.

Have 2 16yr olds, DS & DD1. We don't really have set rules, but they do chip in quite a lot and also do a decent amount for themselves.

Somehow I seem to have managed to raise naturally tidy children so this does make things easier.

They're responsible for their rooms, but i expect them to be kept tidy and cleaned once a week which they do stick to. This includes hoovering, dusting, changing and washing sheets, wiping windows etc a full clean).
They also share a bathroom and do the same with that except I want it cleaned twice a week.
They put their clothes in the right washing baskets, and collect them and put them away when washed. Also if they want something specific washed and we're not putting a load on they will put the relevant load on.
Most of their stuff doesn't need ironing but will do some of that, however we handle uniforms.
Cook dinner once a week each.
They have to take any items of theirs up to their rooms and put anything they have used away before bed.
If they make crumbs they're expected to vacuum, if they eat at the table they're expected to wipe it over. We're strict with the cleaning up after yourself even with DD2 (5) so its sort of been drummed in I guess.

To be honest they just tend to chip in when asked, if I come in with shopping they help me or we might have a chat while i cook dinner and so will empty the dishwasher. Basic rule is I ask they do, end of.

'Basic rule is I ask they do, end of.'

Seems reasonable.

15, 13, 11 and 9 here - they all do pretty much the same stuff, just with more or less help. The older two vacuum their bedrooms and change their beds.

Clear table, wash up, put clean clothes away, help with laundry when asked. Everyone (including dh) picks a meal a week, adds what they need to an online delivery, then cooks it. And yeah, chip in when required without moaning.

They all help with running the house really!

eldest is 19, he drives, he'll collect drop off the other two to after school stuff/club. Also do some shopping

other two are 16 and 14, and can and do cook, load a washer/dryer.peg out laundry/sort it.

they really do muck in with everything

My philosophy is they all live here, making the mess, eating the meals, talking to the pets, so they can all get on with tidying up, general housework, cooking and clearing after the pets.

They are not angels so a small amount of nagging reminding is necessary but so long as your standards are not show home then everything will be done.

There's no strict regime here, but they chip in when I lose my rag ask them. So they (15 & 13) generally end up loading/unloading dishwasher, removing all their crap schoolwork etc from the dining table, walking the dog, taking out the bins/recycling, laying/clearing the table for dinner, sorting out the laundry (allocating the non-ironed stuff to bedrooms), collecting their plates and mugs from bedrooms and so on.

But we seem to have lapsed this weekend

My 15 year old spends a lot of time doing drama. She came back from the theatre once saying she'd had to empty the bin as it was overflowing - I asked why she never spontaneously empties the bin here, and she says that she knows dad will eventually do it at home, whereas at the theatre, no one will! She often washes up of her own accord there too. I am taking all of this as a good sign that she has learnt the right thing to do even if she usually chooses not to at home, lol!

I have one naturally tidy and one messy. I gave DS2 a final formal warning last week that if he left his wet towel on the bedroom floor (and then got a clean one out after a shower because there was no towel in the bathroom) once more he would be banned from computer for 24 hours. So far so good.
Generally they will do whatever I ask. Clearing table, emptying bins, fetching logs, cleaning bathroom, changing beds etc.
I only pay if it's a big job or for grass cutting. They can choose whether to cut the grass or not.

My 15 and 16 year olds take it in turns to mow the lawns and put the bins out. they sort their own rooms out. One has a tidy room the other has a tip. They load the washing machine but I end up drying it. They help unload the car and put shopping away.....'cos they eat most of it. They also make the occasional meal. An older brother who lives close by pays one of them to mow his lawns and help with painting walls etc.

The 18 year old works now so only sorts his own room out and does his own washing (I have to remind him). He does pay me £25 per week as a contribution towards his keep.

DS is 14. He doesn't do much tbh.

If I ask - he does it. For example taking out the rubbish, emptying dishwasher.

I try and get him to do more - even on the promise of some spending money - but he just isn't interested. So he gets no spending money !

Think will have to crack the whip - they need toknow how to do all these things - I am envious of all your DC cleaning bathrooms!

My 15 year old either sets or cleans the table and he has to keep his room clean. He can put the washing machine on and takes out the rubbish. He loves cars so is quite happy to wash them as well. I've got 6 though so they share things- DS1 is the gardener, DD1 is the driver and so on.

I don't ask any of them to do something that I wouldn't do. (Except for reach the tops of shelves because I'm too small to reach!)

None of my 3 have mastered the skill of bringing all the crockery and spoons OUT OF THEIR BEDROOMS

DSS1 (17) and DSS2 (nearly 15) are expected to wash their own clothes at the weekend (sheets and towels are done for them during the week) and to do small chores when asked - put out rubbish, load bottles into the wine racks etc. They also babysit for DD sometimes.