teen girl - blimey. they dont tell you this when you are TTC do they....

[ThatVikRinA22]

i found out dd has been avoiding revision sessions at school for GCSE, she wants to go to college but if she carries on tossing it off she wont get the results she needs to do so.

i asked for her exam timetable which she threw at me saying it was none of my business
She then began to argue with me about revision
her attitude was pretty bad and she told me she hated me and that i am a crap mum before slamming the door and going to bed
i told her she was grounded this weekend but she clearly did not take any notice and has made plans
i have said its tough and she is going no where this weekend but she is insisting that she is and that nothing i say makes the blindest bit of difference

she has never really needed sanctions before but i felt this was a line she crossed and i felt a sanction was justified

so how the chuff do i make her stick to it? she is stubborn and likely to try to prove her point (that obviously being that i can say what i like but she isnt doing it....) and i think she will try to make a break for freedom tomorrow....

i will take the keys out of the door but i feel we may have a difficult day to come tomorrow.....

does this shitty teen girl phase get better?

she is 14, nearly 15, and is flexing her teenage muscles....but omg its wearing.

anyone survived a teenage girl and lived to tell the tale? please?

Might work for me too :)

That's so true maryz if I suggest it, it won't work as I know nothing

I'm going to have to find a creative way to suggest it, maybe I'll tell her I read about it on the Internet but its a load of crap and will never work.

She will then try it and believe it works just to prove me wrong.

And I thought the baby years were hard...

i used to worry about not being around for weekends any more ( i am for this one and next one but its rare!) but she isnt bothered anyway - she doesnt seem to want to do anything with me anymore anyway (unless i am parting with large sums of cash on her....)

i will suggest rescue remedy - i think im going to walk the pooch but will get DH to sit with her and her revision (she tends not to kick off as much with him) and see what we need to do if indeed so graces us with permission to help....

rescue remedy is a bach formulat, which is basically homeopath(et)ic.
so doesn't do any harm

I know it's no comfort for your dd but at least you know you have a sensible dd

Ah bless her :)

Let's hope they do go and drunk without her and see how they like being arrested.

It's such a shame there's so much emphasis on being "cool" at this age and no thinking of how much worse it would have been if your dd hadn't been there.

These posts bring it all back to me. I had severall years of serious stress (mine) and constant shouting, cajouling and pleading, sitting down with her and helping her or planning revision and spent £s on revision books which remained untouched beyond the first page. She carried on blithly doing exactly as she liked. The only time she went mad at me was when I physically cut the internet connection wire (which meant none of us could use it).

She would start with good intentions, spending hours creating an unrealistice revision timetalbe but never did the actual revision. I though she was working hard (because she said so); she ruined her laptop by spilling tea on it and I took it to get it repaired at great expense (over £100) because I thought it contained all her precious work, only to find that the recovered disc contained pop songs, poems, lists of favourite stars etc, things she'd written about that American sitcome staring Jennifer Aniston, Harry potter etc.

I think it really is impossible to make teenagers do something they don't want to do.

oh dear maryz thats awful for your poor dd - she sounds well out of it though i know thats no consolation what so ever to them when they have been dumped - dd says her best mate has dumped her...another reason she was in tears last night.

i wanted dd to come out with us to walk the dog - maybe i should have insisted as she is still in pjs looking ashen faced and unhappy. The moment i start to discuss school/work/revision/exams she bolts.

i cant wait for her to finish school tbh.

if they dont get the grades for college what other routes are there for them if they want to remain in education?